The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast

For the love of cuckolding

January 18, 2020 Venus
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
For the love of cuckolding
Chapters
5:31
What is cuckolding?
7:13
What is hotwifing or stag/vixen relationships?
12:59
The magic of cuckolding relationships
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
For the love of cuckolding
Jan 18, 2020
Venus

Dive right in to the wonderful world of cuckolding relationships with your host Venus Cuckoldress and find out what's to love about real cuckolding relationships. It's likely a lot different from what you think it is!

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Dive right in to the wonderful world of cuckolding relationships with your host Venus Cuckoldress and find out what's to love about real cuckolding relationships. It's likely a lot different from what you think it is!

Venus Cuckoldress - https://venuscuckoldress.com/
New Merch! - https://www.fullswapshop.com/store/venus-cuckoldress/
Submit a question for the show - https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/
Pillow Talks - https://www.crowdcast.io/venuscuckoldress
Become a Patreon supporter - https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress
Twitter - https://twitter.com/CuckoldressV
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cuckoldressvenuspodcast/
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Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress)

Intro:   0:00
Welcome to the Venus Cupholders podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate in a sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Make sure you go to VenusCuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the Venus Blog. And, of course, if you love it, share it. Now sit back, make yourself comfortable and enjoy the show with your host. Venus.  

Venus:   0:41
Welcome to the very first episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. I am your host, Venus. I'm so excited to be doing this right now. I'm hoping that you love it and are just as excited about this conversation and about learning about all of this fantastic cuckolding lifestyle. Some of you may be familiar with who I am, based on reading my blog VenusCuckoldress.com, and I've been writing in that blog's since 2016. I first started as a cuckoldress when I was introduced to it from a boyfriend back in 2015 and since then I've just been a really out spoken and passionate advocate for this kind of lifestyle and I talk about it as much as I can because I feel like when you find something really great, that it's just natural to want to share with other people, and that's how I felt about this kind of relationship. I had just ended my first cuckold relationship, and I was looking for something similar and sat down to start writing a blog, and I had no idea what I was doing. I just wanted other women to know about this kind of relationship because I had no idea it existed. And so I figure there's probably a lot of other women out there like myself who don't know it exists and who this kind of lifestyle would just suit who they are, like it suits how I am. So that's that's been my goal. That's what motivates me to write, and is what has motivated me to start this podcast.  

Venus:   2:20
What I want to do with this podcast is to first and foremost just educate people about the real meaning of cuckolding. There's so much misunderstanding out there, and I hope to bring some clarity to that, about the real meaning of what a cuckold relationship actually is and also address the questions of,  what's in it for her because there's so much in it for her, and what's in it for him. That's usually the very first question that people have is okay, I think I understand what this is, but why would he like that? Like what's in it for him? So I would like to be able to, get people to understand that in an accurate kind of way.  Um, I would also like, you know, for more women to become involved in this. Like I said before, I think it's a fantastic kind of relationship, especially for women and I hope that more women will at least consider it as a legitimate kind of relationship. It may may not be for them, and that's okay, but just, you know, have them understand that hate this is loving and caring and extremely hot and sexy and empowering, and you might really love it and coming from a woman, maybe they will listen to that, I don't know, but I hope so. I definitely would love to be able to celebrate some of the couples who are in successful cuckolding relationships. Um, there's just some really amazing people out there and lots to learn from them. But also I feel the need to shine a light on some of the negativity that's out there, especially online and within dating in this lifestyle and also some pitfalls for couples because there certainly are some. So I think sharing some of that information and tips and things like that is always a good idea, so people can learn from that.  

Venus:   4:25
Okay, so that's a little bit about me and a little bit about what I would like to do with this podcast. Now, I do recognize that some of my listeners may have never heard of cuckolding before and have no idea what is. So for that reason, I'm just gonna go into a quick little summary of what cuckolding is compared to hotwifing and, um, and then go from there. So for cuckolding, what it is for me, this is my definition anyway, is it's a form of non monogamy. So it's a one sided open relationship where he is faithful to her, and she is not to him, and they both love it that way. So with cuckolding relationships, there is usually some form of power imbalance where she's in charge, or she makes the decisions who she sleeps with and there's usually some form of sexual denial or humiliation. I mean, not always, but that's a pretty common theme in cuckolding. So it's quite similar to, ah, hotwifing or stage /vixen kind of relationships, and I'll get into what that is. But as far as the sexual denial and humiliation that makes cuckolding unique. That can be, you know, pretty mild. Or it could be pretty harsh. So there's a wide spectrum of practices within that part of it. Um, but each couple is unique. Each couple has their own kind of thing going on. I'll go into more detail in future episodes, about humiliation, about sexual denial and about this power imbalance that seems so unfair and why I love it so much. So stay tuned for definitely go into a lot of detail about that. So with hotwifing or what sometimes referred to as stag and vixen relationships, it's very, very similar where he's faithful to her and she's not to him, however, there is no power imbalance. It's very equal and sometimes maybe even like he is the one who decides who she sleeps with. He's the one that makes the rules about that. And usually there isn't much or any sexual denial or humiliation in hotwifing kind of relationships.  

Venus:   6:47
So those are the big difference there, and I obviously love cuckolding versus hotwifing and I I think if I you know if I think about why it is that I love cuckolding more than the hotwifing. I mean, I don't think I could ever be in a hotwifing kind of relationship because, first of all, I like to make the decisions about who I sleep with. Um, back before I even met my first cuck boyfriend I was in the swinging lifestyle for many, many years, and I found it really challenging to date in that lifestyle because I felt like any guy in that I would date in swinger lifestyle would want to have, you know, equal partnership as far as like the power dynamic. So there would always be a lot rules, boundaries limits, all that, you know, normal stuff in in swinging kind of relationships, and I get it. I totally get it. But for me, that I just didn't want that at all. I like to be able to make the decision about who I am able to sleep with and do whatever I want whenever I want. I'm a little bit selfish like that. So, honestly, before I found out about this kind of relationship, I thought there's just no way that I was going to find a guy that was going to allow me to have that kind of sexual freedom. And then when I met my first cuck, I was just blown away. I literally was like, are you serious? You're telling me that I can fuck whoever I want and you're not going to be jealous. You're not gonna get crazy about it. And you're actually going to fucking love this part of me, and I just couldn't believe it. I and so I ran with it, literally just dived right into that shit because I was so happy. I was literally so happy to have found that, um, so for me, that's a big part of it. I want to be able to do whatever I want whenever I want. Um, but, you know and that was the kind of relationship that I first started out within cuckolding. So maybe I'm just used to that. But I don't think I could ever be in hotwifing kind of thing. It's just it's just not me. I kind of like the unfairness of cuckolding.  

Venus:   8:58
I've definitely learned to love the humiliation part. I mean, that's something that doesn't come naturally to a lot of women. We're taught to not ever hurt somebody's feelings, and and that's not how I would explain humiliation, but that's what women think it is. And, but I have learned to love it. And it started out, you know, with the really subtle stuff but now it's kind of just like, now I'm pulling it all out. Only if he likes it though. If he didn't like it, then uh, not not gonna benefit me either. I tend to like what my my partner likes so, and that's the great thing about cuckolding is that like in this kind of relationship, it's very much like you feed off each other, and that's the way that it should be. It shouldn't be kind of just like, you know, me, doing whatever I want, not giving shit, not caring about my partner. I do love and care for my partner. I want to make sure that he's happy. And so people think that it is really selfish and unfair when really it's not. That's my opinion on that. Anyway, um, I will definitely go into detail in future episodes about you know, how I got into this and my first cuck relationship with him and my first cuckolding experience and all of that crazy hot shit cause it's crazy. Um, but so stay tuned for that. That's definitely coming up.  

Venus:   10:31
Um, for me, cuckolding has been around forever. It really has. And, uh, it seems to be more popular lately and I don't like, I don't know, it seems like that to me. Maybe. I just don't know, I'm constantly exposed to it so I could be just living in this little bubble where it seems like, really, it's everywhere, but, um, it seems like more, more, more people are talking about it now, which is awesome, and I think it's really great, but it's, you know, it's it's a lot of places online now and it's brought up, you know, kind of in mainstream, um, movies and stuff like that, like it's talked about now and that could be like a great thing. But it's also kind of detrimental because there's so much ah, bullshit that can be found online about cuckolding and so much out there put out there that's just unrealistic. It's just not true. It's It's just a bunch of crap. And it's also, you know, if it helps to create misunderstandings and misperceptions within this lifestyle. So that part really sucks. And I feel like that's what's happening that the more that this is becoming kind of mainstream-ish, Um, that there's just more and more shit out there so for me in this blog, I really hope that I can bring some clarity and real talk to cuckolding, because that is what is needed.  

Venus:   12:00
So that's a little bit about cuckolding. Why I love it so much. Now there may be some people that are asking themselves, you know, why do you think cuckolding is so awesome, because I don't shut up about it. I talk about it all the time, I love it so much. Um, I talk about this to my girlfriends all the fucking time. They're probably sick of hearing about it. But anyway, for me, I will always forever say that this kind of relationship is so unique, so special and literally magical. And, you know, people kind of laugh when I say that because they're like what are talking about, but it's true. It's it's true. There is some sort of crazy fucking magic that happens in this kind of relationship that I feel like, doesn't happen in any other kind of relationship. But having said that, I will say that what I'm talking about, this magic stuff, this amazing, unique, like incredible cloud 9 shit, it only happens when it's between two people who are in a loving, committed, long term relationship. So when you're in love with that person, that's when all of this insane intimacy, love, bonding, connection stuff happens. And with these cuckolding experiences, and so when you don't have that, when it's just two people who let's say our friends or have met on some fetish website and decided that they're both into this and they want to try it out on a Friday night, that this doesn't the same thing that I'm talking about just does not happen at all. It's just doesn't. So I kind of feel sorry for the people who have tried quote unquote tried cuckolding, um, with somebody like that where they're just they're not in love, but they just want to do this, they want to act out this scenario because I think it's really hot and sexy, and they do, and they're like, yeah, that was fun, on to the next thing. I kind of feel bad for them because, like they don't get to experience real cuckolding and the difference is just so enormous that you can't even compare the two. So I feel bad for those people. They don't even know what they're missing, really honestly, um, when there's love that happens between two people and you're in a cuckolding situation, there's just some sort of like emotional connection dance thing going on between the two of you and that, combined with the sexual experience, is mind blowing. And it's super hard for me to explain it, because it is just that amazing. Like my first cuckolding experience will stay with me for the rest of my life. It was that transformational like I, from that point on could not ever go back to a quote unquote vanilla normal relationship ever again. I just can't. I just can't. I literally have been on one vanilla date since then. Five fucking years ago, and I lasted, maybe, like, 20 minutes before I I just wanted to leave. Like I'm like what am I doing. I can't do this. I have to have cuckolding because I already know how amazing it is. And they say cuckolding relationships are addictive, and I would 100% agree with that, because once you have had that, nothing else really compares.  

Venus:   15:36
So it's like being in love with somebody and the trust, the connection, the bond that you have together is just super amplified by cuckolding. And that's really hard for people who don't know what cuckolding is, it's hard to portray that to them because the just think about it as a sexual act, like, oh, he's watching her fuck some guy or she's fucking a guy and she's filming it for her husband at home or something like that, like those are the things that they think about when really that's like that's like nothing, really. That's not not, it's like none of it. All the amazing stuff that's going on is how she is looking at her husband or boyfriend while she's doing something or saying something or giving him like a like a look like they're thinking about each other in that moment at or you know she's thinking about him or how he would like this picture or, you know, she's just - and he's like, you know, beside himself, all fucking excited, thinking about what she's doing and everything like that, like there's so much more going on than what people think about.  

Venus:   16:51
And that's the shitty thing about cuckold porn is that it's so awful is just like people who don't know cuckolding, maybe they've come across a cuckold video on pornhub or something, and, um, unfortunately, most of it is shit like absolute shit. And I don't say that because, like the actors, you know, they're fine, whatever, there's nothing wrong with the actual videos themselves. It's just that I say it is shit because in mainstream porn it's impossible to portray what's really actually going on in a cuckold scenario, because all of that kind of mental emotional stuff is - you can't, you can't pick up on that. You just cannot. So for mainstream porn, the only kind of couple scenario that they can portray well-ish is some like cruel femdom kind of cuckolding where you know he's got a collar and leash on like he's, you know, on his hands and knees. And she's, you know, humiliating him, degrading him, making feel like a piece of shit and like and he's looking like, you know, this pathetic, weak little cuck and stuff like that and and they go with that story line almost every single fucking time. And it's unfortunate because that is not what cuckolding really is. It is in some cases, sure, some women go off and do that sort of stuff, and and he loves it like that. I don't know, but like I will tell you that that's not accurate. There is also some amateur porn out there that is pretty good, um, with real couples doing this sort of thing, but still, regardless, with that, you can't capture that kind of emotional exchange that's happening. So that really kind of sucks.  

Venus:   18:46
Anyway, I think it went off on a little bit of a tangent there, but, um, I just wanna say that cuckolding is really fucking magical. And it leaves you with this kind of high for days. Literally. You're on cloud nine for days after you have cucked your husband or your boyfriend. This shit is so exciting and so amazing. Incredible, Fantastic. Just the best experience ever that you are going to be on cloud 94 fucking days afterwards. And it's just some next level relationship stuff. So my hope is that more and more people can experience that because I don't care what anybody else says about cuckolding being strange or being weird or that Cox Air, you know, to be there. They're not respected or whatever. Fuck that shit. This is a loving, caring, amazing kind of relationship where there they both respect each other and have these experiences that are just next level. And why wouldn't people appreciate that? I don't understand. The kind of experiences in cuckolding relationships, I think, are way better than any kind of other relationship out there. That's my controversial opinion, and I'm sticking to it.  

Venus:   20:04
Okay, it's time to wrap this up. Thanks again for joining me on this first episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. I hope you go to VenusCuckoldress.com to check out the blog and subscribe to the podcast. You can also join me on Twitter. My Twitter handle is @CuckoldressV. I've got some really exciting episodes coming up, so I hope you'll join me. Thanks again for tuning in.

What is cuckolding?
What is hotwifing or stag/vixen relationships?
The magic of cuckolding relationships