The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Harmoni Kalifornia 👑♠️ BBC, Side Cucks, & Balancing it All
The QoS hot girl summer theme continues with Harmoni Kalifornia!
Harmoni Kalifornia, an adult film star known for her Queen of Spades cuckolding content is back on the show to share her incredible journey from meeting her partner Pip in a strip club to becoming a prominent figure in the interracial cuckolding scene. Venus and Harmoni discuss the intricacies of transitioning from private enjoyment to professional content creation, along with the influential role that Tumblr played in popularizing this niche lifestyle.
Listen in us as she delves into the complexities of maintaining multiple romantic relationships with balance, communication, and self-care. From ethical challenges in the adult film industry to the dynamics of a "side cuck" and the unique allure of black men within this lifestyle, this episode offers a candid look at what it takes to succeed both personally and professionally in this complex lifestyle.
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Here's what's coming up on the show. So this might be a really stupid question. Probably is, but do you ever sleep with a white guy? When you get sent a really great or if you just happen upon a really great BBC dick pic, what's the first thing that goes through your mind?
Speaker 2:How it will feel in my pussy Like how, like that's going to stretch. You know that's going to go really deep.
Speaker 1:This is the Venus Cuckoldris podcast A place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Let's go. Welcome to the show everyone. I'm your host, venus. Thanks for joining me today. Let's go event.
Speaker 1:There's some really, really good stuff in here. She's so awesome. I love really digging in with her and understanding her incredible Queen of Spades lifestyle and her marriage with Pip. Some of my favorite parts of this show today include what it was like for her to transition into a Queen of Spades lifestyle with her partner, pip and what that was like if there were any challenges involved in that. And we talked about what it was like for her to go pro so start to create content for a career and the challenges around that. We also talked about side cucks, friends with cuck benefits. We hit on polyamory as well Cuck's Friends with Cuck Benefits. We hit on polyamory as well, and we talked a little bit about bibles and cuckholding and what it's like to have a pussy-free cuck husband. So we touched on a lot for today's show.
Speaker 1:This one really goes deep. It was free for people to be able to watch this live. There is the video, unedited video replay available to all of the Friends with Benefits and Helpful Cuck tier supporters in the Queens Quarters community. So if you want to join one of those tiers and help support the show, you can go to venuscuckoldresscom and sign up. The next Pillow Talk event is going to feature a Mr Blaze. So the last episode I had was Brooke Blaze and her husband. Mr Blaze is going to be on the next Pillow Talk event and that is going to be live on Crowdcast.
Speaker 1:Tuesday August 20th at 12pm Pacific, that's 3pm Eastern. Catch it live. You can register at venuscuckoldresscom Just click on the events page and then oh yeah, before I forget, tuesday August 13th, I'm going to be doing a live chat in the Queens Quarters community. This one's free for anybody to join and the topic is going to be interracial. Specifically, what I want to do is ask people what is the gravitational pull that black men have in the interracial cuckolding lifestyle? I know what it's like for me, and I've talked about that before what the pull is for having black bulls as partners. But I just really want to know, especially from Cucks and from other ladies as well, but especially from Cucks. I want to know what do you think is the pull? What's so enticing about interracial cuckolding? So that's Tuesday, august 13th, mark your calendars. And it's going to be at 1 pm Pacific, that's 4 pm eastern. Live in the queen's quarters community. If you want to join, you can go to venuscuckledresscom. Click on the events page.
Speaker 1:Now, before we jump into the showa couple of things. So yes, recently you may have noticed on my socials I I went on a trip to Las Vegas and it was so fucking fun and I will be going into detail about that trip in an upcoming episode and it was just fucking amazing. So I have friends who they wanted to renew their vows and they wanted to do it in a kind of lifestyle setting slash party and I got the invite to go and it was pretty incredible. And I went to the event with Grunky. He's been on the show before and he's probably, like you know, cuck level 3000. But I went with him. We had such a great time. So I can't wait to talk about this on a future episode.
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Speaker 1:So we're going to be talking about our fucking love for black men, and I will just start out by saying that a long time ago, when I very first started in this lifestyle even before I think it might have been even before I started blogging somebody I was talking to this cuck and he was saying that, like, harmony, california is the reason why he got into interracial. That's where his interest came from and that's why I was like, oh, okay, um, I don't know who that is, but I remembered the name. And so when I came across you, I was like, oh, she's a legend, like she's been around since day one, like she's the OG here, and so I was like so excited to get to know you and to meet you and everything like that. And then we chatted for the podcast and then we met.
Speaker 1:We met in person in Houston at, of all places, splash Mocha Hotel Takeover event, which was so fun. We met twice there actually. You went two years, yeah, and you went back a while like the second time around. It was so much fun. So, anyway, we'll talk. We'll definitely talk about that. Welcome to Pillow Talk, harmony. Do you want to just do a quick introduction about who you are and what you do to the people who are listening?
Speaker 2:For those of you not familiar with you Hi to everybody and thank you, venus, for having me on again. I'm Harmony California. I am an adult film star. I am strictly BBC and I am a cuck dress or cuckoldress. I like cuck dress, it just is a little shorter. So that's who I am. I've been in this lifestyle man. I've been in actually adult filming since I'm probably about 10 years now, um and, but I've been in the lifestyle for a good 20 years.
Speaker 1:So how did you get like? What was it that got you into all of this?
Speaker 2:It really it started out so Pip and I have never had what you would, what vanilla people would call a normal relationship. Um, we met when I was a stripper and he was a customer, so our relationship has always been different. It's just, it just has and you know, from playing around at the strip clubs kind of evolved into swinging, and then the swinging evolved into interracial, and then bbc only, and then, uh, along came doing it professionally and then into added the cuckolding to the interracial and that's kind of where we are now I did an interracracial talk recently in the Queens Quarters community where I talked about the very first time I fucked a black guy and I was like a teenager and I was cheating on my boyfriend at the time Whoops.
Speaker 1:But it wasn't necessarily memorable sex but, like the, that scenario was memorable because I almost got caught. Um, because I was at a house party, I was fucking the guy in the basement anyway. Um, do you remember your very first time with a black guy?
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely Absolutely. Uh, it was a friend of Pip's Um and I always noticed him. He was very confident and very attractive and very good at sports, um, and so I always noticed him and just one night, randomly, he made a comment to pip that's, uh, something about my ass. I was, you know, ahead of them walking away. We were all going back to our cars after a football game, I think, and he made a comment about my ass and I, you know, when pip told me later, I said, oh, that's really that's interesting. And so I pursued him after that and then, yeah, I remember the first time it was at his house, a couple different places around the house over quicker than I wanted it to be, but I knew that it was something that was going to want a lot.
Speaker 1:How did you know what was it?
Speaker 2:It's something that's I don't know. When you find the thing that clicks, it just clicks. You know, when you find the thing that I mean he was tall and very muscular and just that air of confidence and the color contrast on the skin, all of it just made it. You know, above and beyond.
Speaker 1:And did you know at that time that like interracial was like a real thing? No, no, I did not. Do you remember when you found out like like, oh shit, like there's a lot of interest in this?
Speaker 2:Uh, it was probably a couple of years later, I don't remember exactly. But we were, you know, we once, I, once I found this niche. Um, we went that way in our swinging lifestyle and then I believe it was Tumblr was probably the thing that I was on first, and then all of a sudden like, oh, people are really people are really interested in this. And and then, you know, I met DFW night and I'm like, okay, I could actually like I could do this, do this, I could make money off of this and do this for a living and not only enjoy myself. But what do they say? You know, if you do what you love, you never work a day in your life. So, you know, I'm like, oh, this could you know I can, I could do this. So I did.
Speaker 1:Oh, tumblr. Yeah, pip says her pictures blew up on tumblr. That's where I think that was really like, where a lot of origin stories came from. Because, um, that's, I do remember when, when I first got into it was when tumblr was still a thing. I and I know that because, like I remember, when I was thinking about blogging, that was the option was did I want to start a blog on Tumblr or did I want to have my own blog? And so I was kind of weighing the pros and cons.
Speaker 1:But I remember, like at that time, tumblr was like all the guys were on Tumblr because I was like had just broken up with my first cuck boyfriend and I was looking at dating and stuff like that and like guys were constantly sending me stuff from 10 Tumblr Like, look at this is so hot, look at this so hot. And I actually spoke to one of like the guy I tracked him down, this guy who is the guy who came up with the word stag, the label stag, and he said it was back in the Tumblr days where he found that the word cuckold was really hardcore humiliation, depicted as that on Tumblr, and that he himself and many other people, many other guys on there were kind of like, didn't really feel like that resonated with them and and so he came up with this word stay. But that was back in the Tumblr days. So when Tumblr closed down, oh my gosh, like this was really hard for a lot of guys out there who are, who are just like man. I got nowhere to beat off to now.
Speaker 1:I got to go, you know, twitter and shit like, and it's never quite been the same, because Tumblr was like amazing, there was some, you know, people had some really great collections on there and I don't know if there was that much discussion going on, but probably not but lots of bottles of moisturizer and, um, okay, so you found out that this was like something that you could do and something that you're. You're just like, wow, this is your pics were going crazy on there. People were loving it. This was the beginning of your actual career in interracial right, right, yes. And then at some point you decided, okay, I'm going to be black. Only Do you remember when that was, or was it kind of just like a gradual thing? Okay?
Speaker 2:Uh, I'm trying to think I don't, I don't know that. It was a gradual thing, cause after the first time I was like okay, like we're going to focus on that Um. So it was just kind of a you know, that's it we're going to. We're going to focus on that Um. And then that's just what we focused on in the swinging world. And then eventually it turned into the, and once, once I was gonna go professional, I was already way, way black, like once I was ready to go professional, it was, I was way done, there was, there was no nothing else going on.
Speaker 1:So so this might be a really stupid question. Probably is, but so do you ever sleep with a white guy?
Speaker 2:Nope, how long has it been? I don't know. That's a Pip question.
Speaker 1:Why? Because he would remember, because it was him. Yeah, okay, so Pip is completely denied PIV sex, right, yeah, okay, okay, and Pip is not allowed to sleep with other women. No, that was another dumb question. Oh wait, pip says 2008. Of course he had that burned in his memory, okay. So how has your relationship with him changed? I know you said you've always had this very unique relationship, which I love, by the way. Obviously you're very adaptable together and both enjoy this kind of lifestyle that you have together of I don't want to say negative effect on your relationship and any challenges with your relationship when you decided to like just sleep with black guys, therefore not have PIV sex with PIP anymore.
Speaker 2:There's always challenges, right, always. You can't take on something new without expecting challenges and the challenges. Really it just came down to finding different ways to connect. I mean that's. And really if you want like we're going to go into a little bit of psychology on healthy relationships you should have multiple ways to connect, not just P and V and so that is just. You know, when you take away the P and V, it doesn't mean you take away everything. You know he's allowed sometimes to unlock and masturbate, and sometimes it's just to my videos if that's what he wants to do. Or sometimes it's me laying there in his arms and touching him and kissing him and telling him a dirty story or something like that. So you still have. You just have to. You just have to find different ways, different ways to get that intimacy without the actual P and the B.
Speaker 1:I love that, yeah, because I mean, everyone thinks of a sex life as PIV sex, right, and if you don't have that, then you don't have a sex life. And it's like fuck that man. We are way more creative than that in this lifestyle. How limiting is that that just dick and pussy is sex life? Yeah, no, yeah. And sexual fulfillment People think, oh, there must not be any sexual fulfillment If he doesn't get PIV sex. People are so especially guys really limited to that. They're like, well, there is nothing else. How could there be anything else? Like how, how unfair and tragic is that? It's like how unfair and tragic is that that you have such a limited idea of what sex actually is. Like you're missing out on so much.
Speaker 1:I fucking love clean up so much. Like, oh, my God, to me that's like the pinnacle of sex. Like you're going to clean up my stretched out, fucking wet pussy. Yeah, hello, yeah, absolutely, that's hot. Like that is hot, that is really hot for me anyway. Um, clean up hells, yes, says grunky. Oh, grunky's the king of clean up that, that guy, I think he's. He's eating more cum than probably anyone in the whole world.
Speaker 2:That's off the ground.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm not regular. It's like a whole diet for him, okay. And then I also wanted to ask you about actually this question came from Sean, one of my helpful cucks, so he wanted to ask about polyamory and if that's been a thing and I do I remember we talked about this a little bit on the podcast where you said you had a bull, that it is like a polyamorous relationship that you guys have. Is that? Do you still have that? Is that still something that you are interested in? What's the dynamic around that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, that is definitely still a part of our lives, absolutely yeah. It's just, you know, sometimes, and you know, men come and go, lovers come and go. You know, none of it is permanent and none of them are beholden to me by any means. They also date other people. You have to, you have to have that balance, like they have to have other people. I can't be the only person for them. I don't have that kind of time to you know, commit to them, so it's, it's all. It's all just a delicate balance. I mean, that really is what it comes down to is just figuring out what everybody needs and also taking care of yourself, and and that's how you do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel that I'm like how would I have time to manage more than one relationship, Like actual romantic relationship, like shit, like maybe it'd be really great if this person lived next door. That would be so convenient. Or just like a bunch of people in my neighborhood Make it a lot easier. But let's face it, it's not really like that. Was that kind of like a big step for you to take on another romantic relationship? You?
Speaker 2:know when it happened. It just it's not something that you plan. You don't plan having that connection with somebody. There's one thing to have, the sexual connection and the sexual tension that I pretty much get with all my lovers, you know, connection that you can sometimes hit and it just happens and it wasn't anything that was planned, it just sort of happened. And you know, and it's different, it's the falling in love part of it, or that extra strong feeling um is, uh, it's something that can come and go and just I don't know something to be treasured and something to hold on to and nurture it. Just, even when it is that little part, you know, even if it is something fleeting and just something that happens, and you, you know it's part of life's little joys and so you enjoy it while you have it and everything comes to an end, everything does so it's you just take that, take that little moment when you get it, that's all.
Speaker 1:I love that and I do feel like those kind of like real I don't even know if I could define it, but the relationships that I've had with some of my bulls have been just so deep and so fulfilling and I wouldn't necessarily say it's falling in love, but like there's a real platonic love there. Special for me is just like what you said like this is temporary, this is not someone I'm going to obviously be spending the rest of my life with, not likely. This person is around in my life, contributing to my life and contributing to theirs right now. And there's something very like when you go into this relationship, realizing that you're so much more present, you're so much more appreciative of this person and what they're bringing right now, that it's just like makes it really special. And yeah, this person could be gone tomorrow or next year or whatever. And it's fleeting, I guess is what I'm trying to say, and because of that you kind of hold more importance to it.
Speaker 1:And, having said that, for a lot of cucks out there, this is like one of their biggest fears. For some, this is one of the biggest turn-ons too is knowing that, with that increased level of affection and feelings and intimacy, emotional intimacy with a bull. It's like she might leave, she might want that more than him, and so this is like a big fear. I don't, I don't want, I don't know. You can't really speak for Pip, but like is this something that you guys kind of like went through where he was? Like I hope she doesn't fall too in love with this guy.
Speaker 2:Sure, sure, every. I mean mean, you know, pip is still a human being, we're all still human beings, um, but the reality of any situation, no matter what your relationship, is yes, he says yes, he's like, yes, yeah, but the reality is, um, that can happen whether you're swinging or not. No, there's nothing, there is nothing keeping her with you other than her desire to be with you. They can always leave. They can always find a cock somewhere. I mean, cocks are everywhere. They're just giving them out on the street, so you can definitely find it anywhere. So it it doesn't really matter if you're in the lifestyle or not. Your relationship is what you make of your relationship. And if these other things come and go and your relationship survives, then you're the stronger for it. You know how many people do you know how many vanilla relationships are great together? They have great communication. Maybe they've built a life, and then one person cheats and all of a sudden, oh, we're blowing up our whole world, everything. We're blowing up everything the house, the kids, the cars, the money, boom. All of it's gone because of one. Really, you couldn't talk, you couldn't communicate, you couldn't figure something else out other than exploding everything that you built your life on. So it's you know.
Speaker 2:Which way would you rather do it, I guess, is my question. I'd rather do it an open way where he knows I'm always here, I've always come back, I've always been with Pip and I always will be with Pip. He's the life partner, he's a person I've chosen to have a family with and have a future with. Everybody else I love in the way I love them, and will they be with me forever? I don't know, Maybe, but probably not. You know, things come and go, people change. You're supposed to change. It's called growth. So you just you know, how would you rather live your life? I'd rather be open with everything and you know, let it play out like that, and communicate versus, you know, trying to keep it locked behind closed doors. That never works. It just never works. Either somebody's ignoring it so that they can get on with their life, but it just it's painful and that's not a way to live life, in my opinion no-transcript.
Speaker 1:It's really not. I mean, like you said, when you've built a life together, you have all of these things together. You're going to be very aware of that and want to preserve that, and I love the fact that it's about being open and being honest. Pip, in the chat he said he was very honest when he said neither of us were good communicators when this happened. And if there's anything that's going to teach you how to communicate properly, it's something like that. Right, it's a, it's a probably a part of your life where you learn more about yourself. Like you said, you we change. You're like we change as people. We change as a couple, um, and then you know, then you have to learn how to navigate that together.
Speaker 1:Let's not paint cuckolding as like a gumdrops and rainbow thing, because, let's be honest, a lot of couples are not able to navigate through these complexities and they, these relationships, do crash and burn. I've heard about it, I've seen it happen and it sucks, but you guys were able to get through these different. I don't want to cite hurdles because it weren't really. I mean, these were just decisions that you guys decided to make together and they had their challenges that went along with them. Right when you bring in somebody for a poly relationship, going from a relationship that that was not poly, you had open relationships on one side anyway, um, but not the poly part. I mean that can be really complicated. You guys were able to get through it. That's pretty awesome, um, what about?
Speaker 1:I wanted to ask you also about side cucks. Like I know this, like side chicks, everybody knows what a side chick is, but is there such a thing as like a side cuck in in your, in your relationship, like have you ever had it? Because I, because I had a lot of guys ask me over the years if they could like just be like the side cuck and so not like you know, not the cuck that you're with, like you're married to, but like your side cuck. Is that a thing?
Speaker 2:yes, yes, that is a thing, that that is definitely a thing I definitely look like.
Speaker 1:What is? What is this all about?
Speaker 2:You know it's so I would say, my most long term that I would call side cuck is a guy I call Pinky who lives in Australia and he I don't know, he's a big fan of mine and so you know there's a lot of chatting back and forth. The time change, you know, time difference can make it a little more difficult, but a lot of chatting and pictures and then we'll do Skype chats and, um, and yeah, it's. I mean, if you want to know what it really looks like, it looks like a friendship. I mean, that's what it looks like, that's, that's, that's what it is, um, that's cuck friends with benefits.
Speaker 1:That's what I interviewed somebody for the show before she had this she's cuck friend, cuck friends with benefits. I was like that's so cool, I love it. Okay, let's get to the questions. The jump to being a hot wife and a QOS, especially in your first stages with your husband. That's a good question because a lot of women do struggle with that. But because I think, because of your the fact that you were like not super vanilla, like not just like some board house wife somewhere, you were rocking your life like to the 10th degree.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I kind of already was, I mean, like before we even got into this swinging, like one thing. Um, I went to Europe for a month after I graduated from college and this is before Pip and I were dating, but we weren't married, um, and even on that trip, I had carte blanche to do whatever I want, as I know, partied across europe, uh, for the summer and, um, so, yeah, it wasn't too. It wasn't too difficult at all. Honestly, you want to know what was harder is making the jump from hot wife to adult film star? Um, because as a hot wife, sure, pip would be in the background taking pictures, taking video, waiting for his cleanup moment, you know, and doing whatever pip does in the background. Um, but I would just be having sex. I am just fucking, I'm just fucking, I'm just having fun, I'm just getting off, um, but when you switch and you have to be professional now it's now I have to know where Pip is, because he's got the camera. I need to be looking at the camera. So you guys know that I'm looking at you, um, and I have to know. You know, like, I have to know which way to tilt and turn, twist and then twist this way, get the arm out of the way, you know. So that's honestly the biggest jump that took a lot of it.
Speaker 2:Still, it still takes training. I won't even say that it doesn't because, you know, in my, in my scenes, in my shoots, I get what Pip has termed black dick drunk and I forget whatever I'm supposed to be doing. If I'm, you know, if there's a theme I'm supposed to be saying something, or maybe we went through positions and I'm like you know, I was supposed to switch here or something, and so it's. You know, I need to know where he is to get my directions, and even beforehand he'll be like, okay, you, just, you know, you say yes, yes, yes, a lot. He's like try to say something else. I'm like, I don't like, are you serious you want me to think while in the moment, like I'm just like that's no, I can't, it's hard. So I'm just like that's no, I can't, it's hard. So I'm, you know, uh, that's the harder jump really was to do doing it. You know, screwing professionally, uh, it's different than just screwing in your bedroom.
Speaker 1:I just had this moment where I tried to picture myself Like could I do that? Like could I do? I have the skills to be able to do that. I I do not. I would be so irritated, like get the fuck out. You tell me what to do, get the fuck out. I just there's no way. I'd be so annoyed.
Speaker 2:I'd be like stop telling me what to do it does it, does it, can it can get annoying, um, and then people get like a flash of my eyes through the camera and then he'll be like, okay, that's enough for the directing. I'll just, you know, she's got it all now, um, but yeah it, uh, it can be, it can be a lot, but I, I also don't always remember like something you don't know. But when you're writing not reverse cow, but regular writing face to face, you are supposed to do shoulder opposite shoulder, my shoulder to his shoulder. So I'm at like this really weird twist here so that the camera back here can see my face. Yeah, these are things. So anytime I'm like that, I have to, you know, twist and oh, really limber up my back for the day, and yeah, there's a whole lot of work that goes into it.
Speaker 1:Oh, this one got four votes for upvotes. This is a question from Crystal Welch. She said what are some of the things people in the lifestyle can do to get away from the misconceptions in porn, to support a healthy, happy, alternative lifestyle choice? Great question, Crystal.
Speaker 2:Okay, so there are a lot of misconceptions about porn and about people in porn and people in the lifestyle, and that is very true and often I have found the best way to fight any misconceptions is education, is knowledge, um, that's always always the best way.
Speaker 2:Um, you know, I I get people all the time that I run into life who don't know me in this. They just know the vanilla, harmony and um, and they'll tell me about how all porn is bad and how all the women are abused and objectified and and I have to slowly kind of give them a different perspective of what it's really like in this industry. I mean, our lifestyle and the industry are some of the nicest people you're ever going to meet. I really, when you have, you know, good closed events for people who are just in the lifestyle or who are in the industry, you get nice people, you get cream of the crop and because anybody else just really isn't invited back. But education, telling people it's different but it's not wrong, um, and that really I think is the best way is to get the message out there at any point in time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree. Pip put a comment on it. He said showing a healthy relationship in other aspects of your life is one way that you can do that. And then somebody else had a comment great question. I think the focus should be on the Queen of Spades pleasure. I think it's about balance. Really it's about balance and education.
Speaker 1:Balance in that like, if you ever, like I know, I've watched a few videos that were really hardcore, that were like really really extreme. I don't remember exactly what they were, but I do remember that in those videos what the people directing it do is at the very end they'll show these like after clips of the people joking around and having fun and just basically like this was just pretend. You know, this is us, just we're having a great time, like it's all good, like we're coming back to reality here, it's all good. This was just pretend. This is not real.
Speaker 1:And I I thought that was pretty cool that they I don't know if there's some legal thing that they have to do that, because it was quite extreme, whatever it was, but I thought that was pretty cool and maybe that is about a little bit about the balance part like yes, this porn stuff, this is fantasy and we're gonna fucking dive in and we're gonna really fucking peel it back and expose all this fucking nasty hot shit. But at the end of this we're gonna be like, hey, this is, this is real, real life too. Like, hey, we're just, you know, that was fun, this is, and then this is real life, you know that's an excellent point, because everybody knows that Keanu Reeves is not John Wick.
Speaker 2:Keanu Reeves has never killed anybody. Everybody knows this, right, and that really comes down to education, and especially in this country. You know, sex is taboo. So if we can't even talk about sex, then we certainly can't talk about sex on film. But if you could, then you would know that that kind of film is, for all intents and purposes, a piece of art. That is, that's a show, you know. You know that that 70s show wasn't filmed back in the 70s, right? You know that? Of course you do. It's TV, it's not real, and that really comes down to not talking about it and not educating people about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, great question, crystal. Thank you for that. This one here is from Joe and it says what are your perspectives on cuckold relationships for the next 10 or 20 years? Is it going to be more common? Is it going to hit the mainstream? So you said you got into the lifestyle 20 years ago. You've been in the adult film lifestyle for I think you said, a decade. Right, what do you think is going to look like on the flip flip side of those two ranges of time?
Speaker 2:I see no reason why it shouldn't continue to build when it comes to the evolution of sexual freedom and sexual progress, and exploration it tends to just keep going. Exploration it tends to just keep going. There's some part. You know something about cat out of the bag at some point. You know you can't put it back in and you know the difference I've seen in interracial when I started. This is gigantic and cuckolding, you know, and it's thanks to a lot of people like you who teach cuckolding as love, um and again, education, taking away the stigma of a cuckolding. Uh, and that's really what we're doing. That's what we're breaking down you, me, pip Doc no-transcript.
Speaker 1:Harmony. Do you see bulls struggle with their?
Speaker 2:sexuality when engaged in bisexual cuck holding dynamics? Good question no, I don't think I do. Um, no, I don't think I do, I haven't. Uh, because a bull, like a true bull, that's into the bisexual cuckolding and is into it. No, they know that they are into it. They're not struggling with it. Um, they, you know, they, they accept it, and that's really the best way to not struggle with who you are, it's just to accept it. Um, and so I don't think I don't think I have the ones that are into it, they're just into it.
Speaker 1:That's interesting because, like I see with cocks, like so much of so much shame and so much um fear around being found out and just accepting themselves even, they're like hardcore stuck in the closet, a cuck closet Not to say that this has anything to do with being bisexual, but just like that level of shame. And so I come across cucks all the time who carry that. They're very firmly locked in the closet. When it comes to either bisexual cucks or bisexual bulls, you would think that you would see some of that same kind of thing of like feeling very closeted about it, very scared, very shameful about it. But that's great to hear that you haven't come across that at all. I haven't either Not with the bulls?
Speaker 2:Nope, not with the bulls.
Speaker 1:Yeah. And then the next one. This is from Oliver. Oliver says Harmony. I heard you say in an episode that was recorded during Splash Mocha that you realized that you had been making too much content and too little play without cameras. Have you managed to turn that around somewhat? I hope so, uh, but I imagine it isn't easy.
Speaker 2:You're right, it isn't easy. Um, no, a little bit. Um, I've kind of slowed down my content this year. I'm trying to, I guess, maybe more condense it, like I'll work for a month and then take several weeks off, and then you know, plan to work for a couple of weeks and then, you know, take a month off. Um, so I haven't been doing the best with that balance. But I do have splash mocha coming up again in November, so, um, are you going?
Speaker 1:I'll see you there. Oh, absolutely, that was so great to see you in action last time. That was so fun, like you were just so like enjoying yourself, like just having it. You know, as you're like fuck it, I'm going to go have so much fun and you did. I got to witness Harmony, california reverse glory hole, taking it like a champ. That was great, that was awesome. I had so much fun. Oh, my gosh, I'm happy that you guys are going to be there again. That's great, absolutely. Before we wrap this up up, when you get sent a really great or if you just happen upon a really great bbc dick pic, what's the first thing that goes through your mind?
Speaker 2:uh, how it will feel in my pussy like how, like that's gonna stretch. You know that's gonna go really deep. That's, you know that's going to go really deep. That's, you know, that's. That's usually my first thought.
Speaker 1:Is it. Have you ever seen a picture where you're just like, oh, that's too big.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, not like it's too big, like I'm not going to try it. I mean, mama loves challenge, but um, I it's like oh my God, that's kind of scary big, that's a challenge, okay.
Speaker 1:Have you ever gotten a dick pic?
Speaker 2:from a white guy where you had that same reaction.
Speaker 1:No, does anyone ever send you dick pics of white?
Speaker 2:guys anymore. Oh yeah, all the time. Oh baby, you just haven't been with the right white dick. Take a look at mine. That's a.
Speaker 1:That's a fleshy pink noodle I have no interest in yeah, I know, actually, like on fet life, when you see these white guys who have, like these, that dick pic as their profile pic and you're like, like, what makes you think that that's going to be like yum?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know I don't, I don't understand that. I really I mean cause that's what they like, but it's like I don't know. I don't want to see that. I definitely don't want to see it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I get it Okay. Um, harmony, this has been so much fun chatting with you. Are there any other places where, uh, you want to direct people to learn more about you? Uh, you know twitter's.
Speaker 2:You know I'm always there, but, yeah, only fans is probably the best place. I have two different uh. I have a free site and a pay site. Um harmony, california free, is the free site and girl with spay tattoos the uh subscription site, and you can always find me there. You can always find me on twitter. I think I'm even on linkedin everywhere, harmony.
Speaker 1:this has been so much fun. I can't believe you're going to be going to houston again, and I can't wait to see you and Pip again in action, maybe, maybe we'll have to double team the reverse glory hole again. Well, you weren't there when we did the whole wall of my lady friends, but you have to be there this time We'll. We'll just coordinate it. We'll get doc chocolate. He's going to be there too. We're going to have to get him back in the glory hole, chocolate he's going to be there too.
Speaker 1:We're going to have to get him back in the glory hole. Oh, I said yes, we will.
Speaker 2:Yes, that was great, oh my god thanks for joining me today.
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