The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Confessions - Small Dick Energy
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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Let's go. Welcome to the show. I'm your host, venus. Thanks so much for joining me today. I'm so excited for this.
Speaker 1:I love these confessions episodes. It's always a ton of fun and to me it's so fascinating to find out what's going through your kinky minds out there. And if you want to send in your own confession, you certainly can. You can just go to the show notes for today's episode. The link is there. Or you can just go to venuscuckledresscom. Click on the tab that says the podcast and you'll see a little tab there where all you need to do is press a button and submit your voice note. That way, you have up to I think it's like five minutes to record. So you've got lots of time. You can share your little confession and send it in that way.
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Speaker 2:Hello Venus, long time listener, first time comment. I've been married for nearly 10 years. I am a bit poorly endowed I guess I am under three inches erect and have never been able to make my wife come. After the first six months of being together we started going to swinger clubs so my wife could become properly satisfied from other men she is also a very dominant woman and started uh putting me in a chastity device too. She didn't like the idea that I could uh take care of myself like whenever I wanted to and thought the chastity device was best. In the beginning we would go to these places like once a month. Then it increased to about once a week.
Speaker 2:I've always been submissive, and seeing her have orgasms, even if it wasn't for me, is amazing to watch. Over years, with the constant chastity device wearing it 24-7, I suffer from rectal dysfunction, which really isn't a big deal, since it never really did anything for her. When I am unlocked and my balls are free I can still come, but it kind of just dribbles and puddle on the floor from my flaccid cock. We met a black guy at the swingers club about six months ago. That is very dominant, like he dominates my wife too. She's really turned on by his presence and attitude like that.
Speaker 2:And he also ridicules me too. My wife finds it a major turn on hearing him uh ridicule me. I don't mind at all, since everything he says is uh true. Anyways, he actually moved in with us a few weeks ago and is the boss of the house. My wife and him will even uh sit at the table, sit on the couch together like a married couple, and have me kneel down on the floor besides them. Anyways, I uh thought I would share uh, okay, where do I start?
Speaker 1:it's uh. My first reaction to hearing this confession was is this true? Like, is this actual, for real? Um, some of you might be surprised to hear that, but but I feel like I have heard this almost exact same fantasy laid out like that so many times over the years. So I'm like is this for real, or is this? This sounds exactly like a fantasy that I've heard so many guys talk about. So I'm just like I don't know if this is real to the person who sent this in.
Speaker 1:If it's real, I'm sorry for doubting you. It's just that I I'm like, if this sounds like too good to be true and in and when I say too good, it's like I feel like every submissive guy who listens to this is gonna be like oh my god, that's Like. Oh my God, that's the perfect life. Like you've got all the factors in there. Like you've been married for a long time, you've got this really small dick, the chastity, the erectile dysfunction problems, the dribbling on the floor, flaccid penis, the dominant wife who enjoys ridiculing you in front of the bull and the bull ridiculing you. And you met this black bull and and now he's you know, six months later he's moved in and and he they're acting like the married couple and this just all sounds like. It just sounds like all of these pieces of a very common kind of fantasy that I have heard so many times. So I'm like really doubting whether or not this is legit. I would love to know what you guys think.
Speaker 1:Join me in the community the Queens Quarters community to talk about this one, because I'm like I don't know. I really I don't know. I'm on the fence about this, whether or not it's genuine. If it's not genuine, look, I understand why this is so hot. I get it. This is the ultimate fantasy of losing control but still being able to be useful for your wife, and the erotic humiliation being at like a 10 out of 10. I get it. It's super fucking hot. I just I don't. I don't know. Don't take this as an invitation to send fake shit in for your confessions, guys. But, like I said, if this is legit, good on you. You're living the dream for a lot of submissive cucks. But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3:Hey Venus, what is happening? Um, just wanted to okay, so I'll start with a fake name. It's richard, and I just wanted to say thank you very much for all the content that you put out there and all the work that you put into that. That's amazing and I wish there were more people like you and more content like that. Uh also, uh, really appreciate the, the appreciate the venue that you provide for people to confess you know, provide confessions and stories and so on. I think that's excellent.
Speaker 3:So my story we're going to have to go back like back into my 20s. I'm 44 now and I had one relationship for nine months which was an unmitigated fucking disaster and thank God it was only nine months. And then I had another one for seven years, and let's call that. You know the woman that I had that relationship with. Let's call her Amanda, it's not her name, but whatever. So to preface the relationship number one, I tried I've always been kinky since my adolescent years and I tried very hard to gently bring up the topic of kink and cuckolding with her. It just never flew with her, which is fine to each their own. We had promised each other that we were going to wait until marriage for sex. It seems laughable now, but you're in your 20s and you think you really love someone and you do stupid things. Anyway, as it turns out, I mean, we ended up being engaged for a year and a half. One of Amanda's friends ended up telling me that, hey, you know, she's basically been fucking people since the day you guys started dating, which, you know, if it had not been for the lying, I would have thought was really hot. But I could not tolerate the lying. I couldn't accept it, because you know, there needs to be trust and openness to a relationship in order for it to work. And I just said, okay, like that, I can't deal with that. So I mean, that was the end of that relationship, um, and any semblance of confidence and esteem that I had. I mean, I already had issues with confidence and esteem and, uh, you know, that relationship basically destroyed what was left.
Speaker 3:And, to make matters even worse, while Amanda and I were dating, I was actually talking to um, another young woman who was totally into kink into me, um, and would have done everything that I wanted to try and a lot more. I mean, she was into the party scene and everything, and of course, I mean I completely ignored her, because what else would you do? So I mean she moved on, um, and then for about. I mean here I was at 30, uh, a virgin still, and I didn't date, like I mean, I went on a couple dates but I basically didn't date after that, um, and I promised myself through all of this that any partner I had in the future would have to be into kink and cuckolding um, and there's a minor reason for that, which is, you know, like I, I know I'm not going to satisfy my partner. I mean, like when dudes say that they're into sph and they say, oh, I've got a small dick, like most of them don't. But I mean I fucking do. Like my boner will fit inside an empty toilet roll paper tube with room to spare, and that's all I have to say about that, which is fine. You know, whatever it's life, um, I'm still really, really good at fucking oral and uh, so that's great, um. That being said, the major reason is I never, never, never want to stand in the way of uh or be an obstacle to my partner, uh, or my future partner, um, enjoying themselves and exploring themselves.
Speaker 3:So make a long story short uh, that young woman that I was talking to. She found me on Facebook which makes me feel really old, like Facebook, but whatever, she found me on Facebook and, as it turns out, um, she actually divorced her man child about two years ago and she's still like very much into the party scene and and and cuckolding and kink and all that other stuff and we've been talking well I shouldn't say we've been talking, we've been well. We started talking about three months ago and we've been dating for two months and this very weekend is basically the first time the whole cuckolding thing is going to happen, because she's going on a date and to a party with her dom and I got to buy her outfit for the date and her outfit for the party, which is an amazing like leather pvc I know, I think it's leather harness which is sexy as fuck. Anyway, I just wanted to say like I am happier than I've ever been, like seriously happier than a pig in in mud or pig and shit, I don't I don't even remember what that expression is, but just like I love the fact that a you know, I have this partner and I love her and she and she loves me. I mean, that much is evident. Um, you know we can get along swimmingly and she's going to be out there and she's going to look fantastic and you know she feels good about herself because she gets to go out and have fun with her dom and go to a party and have fun with people, look amazing. And she still and that just makes me so happy Cock holding is amazing.
Speaker 3:I don't understand why people poo-poo it as much as they do. Open up people Try. Anyway, thank you Really appreciate it.
Speaker 1:There's this one part oh my God, you guys, I died laughing. Every time I listen to this, I die laughing. There's one part where he's talking about SPH and he's like, yeah, well, you know how some guys say that they've got a small dick, but they don't. Well, I fucking do. I just laughed so hard. It's just something about the way he said it. Something about the way he said it. Oh my god, it was so hilarious. Anyway, that was like the best part of that whole confession.
Speaker 1:But I I love the story. I absolutely love this story because it goes to show, like, fuck, sexual compatibility is so important and finding a partner who's open-minded to your, what your kinks and fantasies and desires are, and you being open-minded to theirs, is, like, honestly, so fucking important. Um, I wanted to ask though okay, so the girlfriend who that was the fiance and you guys had not had sex because you wanted to wait till marriage, but yet you found out she was out fucking everybody the whole time you guys were dating. Um, I wonder if she knew that you had a small dick. Like that's kind of what went through my mind. I'm like I wonder if she she knows what she's getting into if she marries you, and so she's just out getting lots of dick. I don't know what do you think it just made me think I'm like, oh, maybe that's why I'm not condoning it. I think it's fucking shitty. She went out and cheated like that, like it's bullshit, and you do the right thing by leaving no-transcript. Confession was sent in a little while ago, so you have since had your weekend of fun where your girlfriend was going out with her dom and I love the fact that you got to pick out her outfit. This is such a cuck thing like I would say, like other than maybe clean up and watching.
Speaker 1:I think that a cucks like biggest desire from like almost across the board, number one biggest desire that cucks have is to pick out your sexy outfit Like this is cucks are just fucking so eager to do that. It's like a big. It's a big thing even for me, even though I'm not in a relationship like. I've had so many guys over the years contact me and they're like, oh, can I buy you some lingerie for your bowl? So when you go see your bowl you can wear this lingerie that I'm going to buy you? And at first it was kind of novel and I was like, oh yeah, that'd be kind of cool, that'd be fun. But then you realize this is not really like a gift for me. This is more of a gift for him. Like this is to fulfill his little fantasy, his cuck fantasy. And then I just end up with so like a closet, fucking full of lingerie that you're like okay, I don't have any clothes to wear like out to grocery shopping today, but I have a shit ton of lingerie. And all you ladies listening, I know you probably had the same thing over the years too having these guys ask you, uh, if they could buy you lingerie. It's such a thing. Anyway, the outfit sounded really sexy that you bought for her, so I would love to be able to see a picture of that. But anyway, it's probably not going to happen, but anyway I would love to check it out.
Speaker 1:Also, definitely happy that you said that you're really good at oral. I think you know every guy should have oral skills that are like amazing. You should eat pussy like a champion, but especially for cucks, and especially for cucks who are not well endowed like you really need to make up for that. And I fucking, I'm such a pillow princess, I know for those of you who've listened to the show for a long time. You know I love to just lay back and get my pussy eaten like forever.
Speaker 1:So definitely a must in boyfriend material. So good on you for that. I really hope that things work out for you and your girlfriend. I'm so thrilled and so happy for you that you found somebody. This person's come back into your life and seems to check off all of the boxes for you, and that just makes me so fucking happy. So I hope that your story provides some inspiration to everyone else out there to make sure that you put sexual compatibility as a top priority when you are looking to date somebody. It can be really difficult, it can be really hard, but it is so important. It absolutely is the difference between whether or not you live a life that's fulfilled or not. So yeah, that's my thoughts on that.
Speaker 4:I'm a 52-year-old male who was diagnosed with bladder cancer three years ago and I've always been kind of the control in the relationship, and now I'm not able to have that control. I'm not with anybody and I'm seeking a future partner, and so I know that I'm going to have to give that part of life to somebody and I'm trying to figure out how to seek that out. So this is my kind of a confession that I'm seeking to become a cuckold. This is kind of scary for me and I don't really know where to go from here.
Speaker 1:This confession made me kind of sad, but also I'm very proud of this person to send in this confession, because that must have taken a lot of bravery to do that. And just to say those words out loud. That and just to you know, say those words out loud. You know, it's one thing to have cuckolding desires because it's hot and it's thrilling and exciting and it's just such a big turn on. But it's another thing to be faced with the idea of becoming a cuckold in a relationship because of a physical illness or injury. That means that you can't have PIV sex in a like quote unquote normal way in a vanilla relationship. And so I think it's really amazing that you're thinking along the lines of how do I still make sure that my partner is sexually fulfilled and that being with other men as far as PIV sex goes. But, as we all know, piv sex is just such a small part of your sex, fucking life, or should be. It should be such a small part of it. There should be so much sexual intimacy in other ways, shapes and forms. I remember listening to the Sex and Psychology podcast when he talked about outer course, and I was fucking fascinated by this because I was like, oh my God, mind blown. Why is outer course not like a more normalized thing, like I would like to just have some experiences that were only outer course and just like work with that, and it almost like forces you to become creative, forces you to be curious about the other person's body and their mind, and so, anyway, I digress, but I think it's really great that you're thinking about the cuckold relationship as a form of, you know, satisfying your partner sexually or assuring that she has the opportunity to be satisfied sexually by other guys. So thank you for that. I can imagine that where you're at as far as like, okay, I'm gonna, I want this and this is what I have to do now. And how do I go about doing it? As many of you guys know, I have been single for a long time and I did have a partner. He passed away. This was several years ago and after that I was like you know what? I'm going to try and find a cock boyfriend again and see how this goes, and it has been such a shit show. It's really fucking difficult for many reasons, but this is why I created Venus Connections.
Speaker 1:It's for singles who are looking for a loving, cuckolding relationship. You know it's so funny. Actually, there's so many people who just assume that Venus Connections is about connecting bulls and couples. Right, because, like, cuckolding is really a privilege within couples. It's a couple's privilege, this kind of relationship. And so to think about single people is kind of like outside of the realm of like normalcy when you're thinking about cuckolding. So people are surprised that it's not for couples and bulls and I'm like, actually no, it's for us singles who are looking for somebody so that we can have this kind of relationship that so many of you couples have out there, which is fucking amazing and incredible and beautiful, and so looking for that is challenging.
Speaker 1:Now, when I first started Venus Connections, my biggest thing was like, okay, are there any single women out there who are actually looking for this kind of relationship? Because until then I had not met any. Like I was, I was like alone. I'm like I don't think that there's other women. I think I maybe came across one or two women on FetLife maybe, and that was it, and I was like I don't think these women exist. And that has been by far the biggest challenge. And you'll see that online and in cuckolding forums like black to white or Reddit or you know all of these places Twitter and everything like that where it's couples, bulls and single dudes. There are pretty much no single women out there online in these cuckolding spaces, and so if you're a single guy, don't bother wasting your time looking for women there, even on FetLife, because you're just not going to find them. But there are a lot of fakes and flakes and blackmailers and really shady scammers out there pretending to be women, single women. So unfortunately, you have to navigate through that bullshit. But there are very, very few single women and I have been over the years many, many times thinking why is this? Do they just not know about it? Are they not interested at all? They know, but they're not interested. I've really mulled it over in my mind so for so long now. Like what's the deal with women? Why don't we see more women signing up for this kind of relationship? This seems like amazing. You get, you can have your cake, you can eat it too. You get you some incredible fucking partner and live this amazing life where you can explore your sexuality together. Like, oh my god, it's why, why, why didn't we not see this more? And I think I figured it out? Um, and for a lot of you guys. Uh, listening, you're probably not gonna like what I have to say about this. Uh, because you're probably part of the problem. So this is the thing For so many years now, we've heard about open relationships and polyamory and swinging and that kind of thing.
Speaker 1:Right, that's not new. Those themes you'll hear in pop culture, like mainstream, everywhere, on TV, in the movies and on dating apps regular dating apps Tinder, bumble, match, whatever the fuck dating app that you're on. You'll see a lot of this language. Oh, I'm an open relationship, I am partnered and we, you know, date separately or we are swingers or whatever, like you will see this everywhere. But what you will not see is cuckolding.
Speaker 1:Um, and and it's why not? It's just a one-sided open relationship, that's all it really is. You don't have to get into the kink stuff. Like you could just keep it at that, right, but you don't even see that. And it's because of this like debilitating shame that comes along with the word cuckold, this negative stigma Guys don't want to put that on their profile. They're like fuck, no, that's. I do not want anybody to know that. That's what I'm into, because they'll think I'm weak, pathetic, loser, blah, blah, blah. Okay, really scared of being outed. Okay, I get that, but it's not helpful because women don't know that there is this kind of one-sided, open relationship that's available. They don't see that. And I will tell you what.
Speaker 1:I went this week. I went on to the field app for the first time, I think, in about five years years. I haven't been on a dating app in so fucking long and I've heard nothing but like shit in the news about people men and women both completely getting sick and tired of dating apps and I'm like it can't be that bad. It can't be that bad. So I went on to field, okay, and I have was very specific in my in my profile about what I was looking for and regarding cuckolding and FLR, and it was overwhelming. Let me tell you, it was overwhelming to have over 1100 likes in less than like 24 hours. It was just. The number of notifications is insane. Okay, let me tell you that, like, that's overwhelming to the point where you just want to close it and just be like well, that's not going to work. Like, that's too much.
Speaker 1:But going through the guys' profiles, okay, this is Field, which is like a kink-friendly, alternative kind of dating app app. Okay, so it's not like it's vanilla. These are people who should be open-minded, kink, friendly, blah, blah, blah. Okay, there was, I think, out of I don't know how many hundreds of profiles that I looked at, there was only one or two that mentioned anything to do with cuckolding or one-sided open relationship, hot wifing or anything like that. That's it. And yet I had likes from 1100 guys. So 1100 guys liked my profile and what it said Hopefully they read it probably not, but anyway and yet didn't want to put anything on their profile about kink or about cuckolding I'm talking about.
Speaker 1:So I was just like this is you guys are part of the problem. If you're not willing to put it out there that this kind of relationship exists, women are not going to even fucking know. So you're going to have to put your big boy fucking pants on and stop acting like a little bitch and put it on your profile. But don't be a dumbass, don't put it on your profile like an idiot. Okay, don't be like. Oh, I want you to fuck other dudes and I'm really into. I want to be your cuckold bitch and blah, blah, like. Just do not do that.
Speaker 1:All you have to do and this is really important, the wording is important here. All you have to do is put I'm looking for a one-sided, open relationship where you get to have extra fun and we both love it that way. That's all you need to say, and you don't need to talk about anything weird. You know, no st, no stigmatized words included, like just put that in there and then you could say ask me more about it, I'd love to have a conversation. And there you go.
Speaker 1:Okay, but until you guys start putting that out there on your profiles, then this shit is just gonna keep on being such garbage where there's hardly any women interested in wanting to date a guy who wants this kind of relationship. Okay, so just put it out there, put it on your profile. I don't care if you fucking have an anonymous profile or if you don't want to attach a photo of yourself with it, then just at least put a photo of half of what your look, your face looks like, so she could sort of tell and then just do that. But you have to be able to do that. So for this guy who sent in this confession, it is a scary place to start trying to figure out how to find a relationship like this.
Speaker 1:Focus on building a relationship with somebody first, okay, determine if you're in Venus Connections you don't need to even talk about cuckolding, because I match people according to that first, so that you can then have conversations only about whether or not you actually like this person. And then, but if you're on a vanilla regular dating app, then you just need to figure out is this person open-minded to this dynamic? If they are great, drop that conversation, shelve it for later and just focus on building a relationship. If she is curious about questions, then by all means answer those questions, but do not focus on getting so so wound up in fantasy talk that it derails the relationship building part. And when you're talking to single women about this kind of relationship, focus about this being an empowering relationship for her, this being about, you know, her sexual exploration journey with the two of you together, and if you focus on that, about the, you know this is really a privilege that you're giving as a gift to her and in return, she's giving you the gift of being involved in some way. If you focus on that and less so on, just I want, I want, I want, I want you to do this, I want you to do that, I want to see this, I want to see that. I want this to happen. I want that to happen. If you just fucking don't bother with that shit and just focus on this being about her and a privilege for her, you will definitely have more success. Trust me, you will. Okay, that's my little spiel. I wish you the best of luck. I really hope it goes well for you.
Speaker 1:It's definitely going to be a challenge, but it is possible, because I did match one couple in the Venus Connections program who got married last year even though they, you know, had to date long distance initially before they could move in together, and now they're living a happy life, flr, cuckolding marriage together. It is possible. You just have to probably expand your search radius to outside of the city that you live in, perhaps even internationally. That was great advice that Dan Savage gave me years ago when I asked him about finding a partner who was serious about wanting a cuckolding relationship. He said you have to expand your radius. You're probably not going to find this person in your city. You're going to have to start looking everywhere, opening up yourself to opportunities to connect with people who want the same thing. And I was like, yep, you're right about that. It sucks. Long distance is hard, but you're right about that.
Speaker 1:Thanks for joining me today. Make sure you go to venuscuckledresscom. That's where you can book a private chat with me, you can check out any cuckolding events that might be happening, and you can even ask a question for the show, as well as, of course, join the Queens Quarters fan club and get all the benefits for that. You can also follow me on Instagram, the Venus Cuckoldris podcast. I haven't been banned there. Well, I have, but not recently. You can also follow me on Twitter, or whatever the fuck you want to call it. My handle is at CuckoldressV. That's it for today. We'll see you next time. Bye.