The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
How to Destroy Your Relationship With Cuckolding
There are a hundred ways you can fuck up your relationship with your cuckolding desires - this episode will talk about one of them.
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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Let's go, welcome to the show. I'm your host, venus. Thanks for joining me today. Well, it's been like what almost five years since I launched this show, and over the last five years, I have definitely talked a lot about how amazing cuckolding can be, how it can be such an incredible kind of bonding relationship next level love, connection, trust all of that amazing stuff and that people who try cuckolding and incorporate it into their relationship can really enjoy those benefits together. But there is a dark side to all of this shit as well. There are 101 ways that you can fuck up your relationship by trying to incorporate cuckolding, by weaponizing cuckolding, by fucking shit up along the way, so we're going to talk about one of those ways today. So it's an important episode for anybody who's thinking about cuckolding in a relationship, or anybody for all the guys out there who are fantasizing about cuckolding, thinking about how to bring this into your relationship or whatever. This is an important show because you need to do it right. You can really fuck shit up if you don't do it correctly, and so we're going to talk about what not to do during that process today. And what inspired this was someone actually. She called into the show, left a voicemail message and she's fucking frustrated and upset and doesn't know what to do about her situation with her partner, who has this obviously fantasies about cuckolding but is really fucking it up. So we're going to talk about that today. That's what's going to be today's show. It's a really good one. Make sure you listen up.
Speaker 1:First I have a few announcements. I have a live event that's coming up on November 21st, so mark your calendar for that. It's a free live chat that's going to happen in the Queens Quarters community and it is in the community. If you just join, you can join for free. There's a tab called live events. Just click on that and join. It's going to be 11 am Pacific time that's 2 pm Eastern, and that's November 21st. It's going to be a live chat about how to find the right bull, so we're going to have a discussion, but also it's going to be a bit of a question and answer format as well, very casual. So you're welcome to join in, participate, take notes, all that good stuff. So that is November 21st at 11 Pacific time in the Queens Quarters community. Just go to venuscuckledresscom to join that event.
Speaker 1:And oh yes, I mentioned this on the last show, but I'm going to mention it again because this is just. I'm really excited about this. I've been waiting for the opportunity to get rid of my fucking Twitter. Twitter has just become such a shithole. It's unreal. I'm just not a fan at all, but up until now it's been like the only place where you can go and get a lot of cuck porn. Ok, there's a lot of cuck porn on Twitter, so people go there, and so that's where you know I have to be.
Speaker 1:So somebody who actually, I think is in my helpful cuck tier or was in my helpful cuck tier, sent me a message and he was like hey, there's this new platform. It's just like Twitter, is called Blue Sky and you should join it. And I was like OK, so I did, and it really does look and feel just like the same layout as Twitter, but not Twitter, obviously, minus the bullshit and they do allow porn. So if you go in on the desktop app and click the setting to allow adult content, then you'll be able to actually watch porn on there on Blue Sky as well, be able to actually watch porn on there on blue sky as well. So there you go for all you guys who just want a wank session, and that's where why you've been going to twitter join me on blue sky. This blue sky social is what it's called, and my handle is the same as twitter at cuckoldressv, so you can find me there.
Speaker 1:I'll put the link in the show notes for today. Join me, I'll follow you back on there. Let's be friends. It's a lot of fun. So, 2025 goals ditch Twitter. Last but not least, for announcements, I just have a quick favor to ask all of my fans who listen to the show If you love this show, would you please it's been a long time since I asked for this favor, so pretty, please. Would you please rate and review the show on Apple Podcasts? If you use Apple Podcasts, could you please press that little button, rate and review? I would appreciate it so much. It helps the show, it helps everything, and so I would be very happy if you do that. All right, that's it for announcements. I guess it's time to just jump into it. We're going to start out the show with the listener audio that came in through the Venus hotline. Here we go.
Speaker 2:Hi, I have a question that I don't know how to address. Hi, I have a question that I don't know how to address. Recently, my partner has been chatting with people on Reddit about how we're a couple and that he loves seeing me in pleasure or to be used. The conversations typically segue into getting people to describe how they would use me. I've had gentle conversations where I've brought up cuckolding, roleplay and scenarios before, but the conversation goes nowhere. My problem is not that he doesn't want to talk about it, but that he has these conversations with people on Reddit in secret and lies to me about it. Conversations with people on Reddit in secret and lies to me about it. I don't know what to do and, on top of that, our sex life has gone from a few times a week to maybe once a month at best since he's been doing this. Am I right to be angry? What should I do? I don't know.
Speaker 1:Thanks, this story frustrates me on so many different levels. It is just beyond. It is so hard for guys to find a woman who's open minded and about learning about cuckolding, who's curious about learning, who is interested in their desires and their fantasies. It is so fucking hard. I have heard this from men over and over and over for years. This guy has that she's. She wants to learn, she wants to role play, she wants to talk about it, she's curious to learn about his fantasies and desires around this and he is just completely fucking it up and I don't really know why. I think it's impossible for me to know just from this clip. I mean, I don't know all of the other stuff that might be going on in their relationship, any background, anything like that. I don't really. I don't know. So it's impossible for me to know why exactly he's doing this, but it makes me upset. It makes me upset on so many levels. So why is he lying? Obviously, the lying is what's really bothering her that and the decreased intimacy. They're not having sex like they used to be, which is a red flag. The lying obviously is a red flag. But why is he lying about it? Why the fuck is he not involving her. Is he ashamed? Does he have a serious case of cuck shame that nearly all cucks have and have to work through and deal with? Does he hate the fact that he's into this kind of fantasy desire and he hates himself because of it? Is that why he's lying? Is he so uncomfortable with sharing his desires that it's a total fucking boner killer for him? Is it the secrecy that makes it hot, like the rush of an affair or something like that? Is it just? Would it not be hot if she knew? Is that what it is Like?
Speaker 1:I am trying to figure this out and I'm wondering if this has anything to do with this word called candleism and I don't know if I'm mispronouncing it because I've only just seen it written, but I've seen it a few times times and I've heard it mentioned in the cuckolding sphere realm. I've looked it up and it's basically where, um, a partner will seek out a third party to share pictures or videos or stories about his wife to a bull and the bull gets really excited and the guy is all excited and sharing those pictures and it's this big hot fantasy talk kind of session. Okay, that's candlelism and of course, it's really really popular in cuckolding, because this is all part of the dynamic, though the cuck really wants to know, you know, does this bull think my wife is hot? What does he want to do with her? And, of course, in for this listener, she said a couple of times that these conversations that her partner is having on Reddit with this guy is all about asking how would you use her, and so this is a wank session.
Speaker 1:I don't know if there's pictures or videos involved, but it sounds a whole lot like the candlelism that you see a lot in cuckolding and this can be a really fun, great little game for people to play, a fantasy game for people to play in this lifestyle, as long as there's consent involved and for the most part I think there probably is consent where guys are going online and sharing pictures of their wife to bulls and and wanting to know, you know, jerking off to the reaction of it all. And I've spoken to a friend of mine who's a bull in the lifestyle and he loves that aspect of the lifestyle. He thinks it's so fun to play that game, like, yes, I want to see pictures of your hot wife, like, show me, um. But he was quick to say that if it does not involve consent, he wants nothing to do with it. So if he gets any sort of sense that this woman doesn't know that, that this husband is sharing pictures, that he's just like fuck that, I'm not, I'm not down with that and I'm playing with that.
Speaker 1:But he also did say that a big problem is guys who are sharing pictures of a woman to the bull and saying how would you use her? What would you do to her? Isn't she so hot? Like, what do you want to do to her? Is that these guys don't actually have a wife, that this picture is not actually his wife, that this is just some picture he stole online or something like that, or maybe it's an ex or something like that, I don't know. But I was like when he told me that, I just fucking laughed because I'm like, of course that would be an issue, just like there's all of these like pretend single cucks out there who are, you know, looking to talk to single women who are into cuckolding, just so that they can have these hot fantasy talk sessions with her.
Speaker 1:Meanwhile they're actually fucking married and they're just pretending, just having wank sessions online. It's the most annoying thing. You guys just got to stop doing that. Just beat it like enough already. But so there's good things and there's bad things about this whole, like you know, seeking out a bull to want to talk about your wife and it being a wet and wank session. So there you knowank session. So if she is aware of it, she's given her consent. Yes, go ahead, share my pictures if you're chatting with somebody online, and sometimes it can be really a good thing because she can actually have a boost in self-confidence when the husband shares oh look what the bull wrote about how sexy you are and things he wants to do with you and stuff like that. It can be a real big confidence boost for women for that. So there are good things about that. But if she well, I suspect there's a lot of guys out there doing this without the consent of their wife and I went a long time ago.
Speaker 1:I went on this so called chat forum for cuckolding. Actually thought there was going to be actual chat like people actually discussing cuckolding on there, but no, it was an entirely just like a running, a super fast running chat group of just straight up wife pics and bulls comments and that's all it was. So there was. There was no women in that chat group and it was just, it was just like jerk off sessions non-stop and I was like, all right, well, that's, that's that so.
Speaker 1:But it made me wonder are all of these women aware that these guys are sharing these pictures of them on there? It made me really skeptical and worried and concerned that there was a lot of this going on without the consent or knowledge of these women. So that could really be a dark side of cuckolding. Is that what this guy's into? Probably I don't think you're allowed to share pictures on Reddit. I don't know, I'm not on there very often, but if he's on Reddit, he's probably on one of the many other websites where you can chat with bulls and share pictures, and so he's probably enjoying that and has been for a long time as well. Has he been making up before her? Maybe he was making up the fact that he had a wife and he was engaging in all of this fantasy talk, probably, who knows? But it is definitely a thing that's going on out there. So it's basically just sharing pictures for the reaction of a bull that's like really hot for a lot of cucks and they'd get off on it.
Speaker 1:But, in this case. Obviously, this is problematic because he's being sneaky about it and lying about it and not involving his partner at all. Or you know what? Maybe he has no intention of ever incorporating cuckolding into his relationship and he wants to be forever locked in the cuck fantasy closet and those fantasies shall never see the light of day or be uttered in any conversation with a partner ever, and that's all he's ever been comfortable with and all he'll ever be comfortable with, and anything outside of that is far too terrifying and a total fucking boner killer. Does that exist?
Speaker 1:Yes, there are lots of guys out there who have no intention of ever, ever, ever, coming out of the closet to their partner to themselves, ever. There's a lot of single guys out there I know who I've come across who have no intention of ever actually dating somebody who wants to do this for real. They just want to waste your time and talk fantasy, talk to you endlessly for months online and just waste your time forever. It's unfortunate, but it's a huge problem online and just waste your time forever. It's unfortunate, but it's a huge problem, and I will never forget the day that I actually realized that. I will never forget where I was, what I was doing when I realized that there I was.
Speaker 1:Like holy shit, like there's actually tons of these guys out there who have no intention of ever following through on any of this, like I am simply just their fetish dispenser. Waste of time, oh my God. And that was pretty depressing and upsetting for me to realize that. But it's true, it is true. So in order to try to answer this question today, I did consult lots of friends and figure out kind of you know, everybody's thoughts on this, and one was really great, so I'm going to include that here. He goes by the name of mr m, his wife goes by the name of mrs a and they have lots of kinky writings on fetlife together. Their fetlife profile is kduoatl. I'll put the link in the show notes description notes for today's episode, but this is what he had to say about this listener question.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 3:So I thought it was a really interesting question that was asked and ultimately, you know, it's a situation that I think a lot of people could relate to, but not maybe that particular situation where you have a female partner who has expressed interest and a willingness to, you know, maybe not take it the full level, but at least role play it and have those conversations, and that's just not a lot of.
Speaker 3:Or that's not a situation where many men find themselves, and I think even rarer is a situation where the female partner is willing to express that level of commitment to this topic and yet the male partner is unwilling to engage and, instead of preferring to live in the fantasy reality, then experience a deeper level of intimacy with his partner, and to me this really signals deeper communication and relationship issues. You know, they should be her willingness to explore this fantasy with him. They should be having more intimacy rather than less, and it just feels like there's deeper things that are going on and I mean ultimately he bags himself a unicorn and he needs to pony up and, you know, spend more time with her and try to connect on that level instead of living in a purely virtual world. So base communication, base, foundational communication, I think would really help. And if they can't get there, then I'd advocate for her to find somebody who has that level of emotional maturity.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Do you think that Cuck shame or how he feels about his own desires has something to do? Might have something to do with the fact that he is kind of pulling away from her when she brings this up, or even sexually with her.
Speaker 3:I think that that's.
Speaker 3:I don't know that's hard for me to think that it's that Because you know, here, in the intimacy of their own home, he's unwilling to engage even with a partner. You know it's one thing for you know I hear the shame argument a lot when it's like, hey, I don't want to expose myself to the outside world. But you know, here he's not exposing himself to his own partner, even when she's kind of removed the curtain of you know, I don't know if she's going to react negatively to this or anything like that. So you know he or she has extended the olive branch and he's unwilling to take it, so it doesn't feel like it's a shame thing. Again, I think it's more communication.
Speaker 1:Yeah, interesting. Okay, well, thank you for sharing that with me. I really appreciate it, having your perspective. Of course, I'm happy to help. The best part of that was he's bagged a unicorn. Now he's got a pony up, and it's true. I mean, you have the opportunity right now If this dude is listening, right now, you have the opportunity of a lifetime. You should definitely take advantage of it and stop fucking it up Now to answer her question about what you know. Should she be mad and what should she do? Okay, yes, you have every right to be mad.
Speaker 1:He's being a piece of shit right now by lying and sneaking around about this Reddit chats. The dishonesty and the lying is a huge red flag. Not cool for the relationship whatsoever. I have zero tolerance for that shit. You should too. The fact that he's not involving you and your sex life is tanking is really not cool at all. Now, I don't know if you have a lot invested in this relationship. I don't know if you've invested a lot in your life together, like share a home or kids, or you've been together for a really long time and like everything else other than this. One thing is just really fucking fantastic. If that's the case, well, obviously I would definitely recommend a kink-friendly therapist and I'll post a link to that's the case. Well, obviously I would definitely recommend a kink-friendly therapist and I'll post a link to that in the show notes for today, and that could be maybe something that you guys could work out.
Speaker 1:Maybe it is just a matter of communication. Maybe it is just a matter of him feeling shame about his desires and he's got to work through that. I don't know. But straight up, I'm going to tell you right now my first reaction was just dump the fucking guy.
Speaker 1:There are so many guys. He's so replaceable. There are so many guys out there who are into this kind of fantasy, who would fucking love a partner who is willing to learn and be curious about and listen to and role play these kinds of desires. There are so many of them literally so few women and so many men and I know this because I have a matchmaking service called Venus Connections and there's always a ton of interest from guys who really want to find a partner who's into this or at least open-minded to learning about this, and there's so few women signing up and it's always been like that forever. So if you are interested in learning about something like this, like you are a fucking unicorn you absolutely are. And this guy who you're with, he really needs to understand how rare you are and understand what a situation that he's in and he's so lucky to have you and in my opinion, he really doesn't fucking deserve you because he's in and he's so lucky to have you in it. In my opinion, he really doesn't fucking deserve you Because he's lying like a piece of shit and he being sneaky about it and in just going about this all wrong. So I think you deserve better. That's just my opinion.
Speaker 1:That's gonna be it for today's episode. Thank you so much for joining me. Make sure you go to Venus cockle dresscom. That's where you can book for today's episode. Thank you so much for joining me. Make sure you go to venuscuckoldresscom. That's where you can book a private chat with me and you can also join the Queens Porters community and get all the amazing benefits, like the private podcast and the helpful cuck tier where you can get key holding the private Snapchat group, monthly private chats with me and weekly live hangouts and invites to special live events. Oh, and you can also submit a question or confession for the show. Just go to venuscuckledresscom and click on the link that says the podcast. Make sure you follow me on Blue Sky Social. Yes, I said Blue said blue sky social. Fuck twitter. My handle there is at cuckoldress v. All right, that's it for today's show, you guys. We'll see you next time. Bye.