The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Venus's Top 5 Most Mind-Blowing Cuckolding Lessons
The Venus Cuckoldress podcast celebrates five years with a special compilation of the most profound, mind-shifting moments that have transformed understanding of cuckolding relationships.
• Key Barrett explains the concept of "unfiltering" in female-led relationships, breaking down how women are taught to filter their responses and how shedding this brings clarity to relationships
• Crystal Welch characterizes cuckolds as "higher life forms" who have evolved beyond toxic masculinity through personal growth work
• Dr. Justin Lehmiller's research reveals men with cuckolding fantasies have higher self-esteem and self-confidence than typically assumed
• Dr. David Ley explains how sexual shame creates self-defeating behaviors in men with cuckolding desires, including the common pattern of intense interest followed by ghosting
• Ella breaks down how patriarchal systems create a skills deficit in men's emotional intelligence, explaining why many struggle with the "varsity level" communication needed for ethical non-monogamy
Links
Key Barrett: https://bsky.app/profile/keybarrett.bsky.social - books https://a.co/d/4PNQSHp episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336219-flr-surrender-submit-and-serve-her-with-key-barrett-m-sc
Dr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ - books https://a.co/d/4gvABX0 episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336195-what-do-your-cuckolding-fantasies-say-about-you-with-special-guest-dr-justin-lehmiller
Dr. David Ley: https://bsky.app/profile/davidleyphd.bsky.social books https://a.co/d/gjjwtdO episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336246-unraveling-the-cuck-shame-spiral-with-dr-david-ley
Crystal Welch: https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/cw episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336214-a-bold-message-to-the-women-of-the-world-you-really-can-have-it-all-with-cuckolding
Ella episode: https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336206-ella-is-back-with-a-revelation-cucks-we-see-you?t=0
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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Let's go. Welcome to the show everyone. I'm your host, venus. Thanks for joining me today.
Speaker 1:I have been waiting so long to put this episode together and I'm so glad that I finally did, because it's been almost a decade since I started blogging or when I learned about cuckolding. I started blogging and it's been five years that I've been podcasting about cuckold, learned about cuckolding. I started blogging and it's been five years that I've been podcasting about cuckolding and cuckolding relationships and I have learned so much and I have had some amazing guests on the show. So I have taken the top five best moments of like mic drop moments where I was just like holy shit, and I put them together with a bunch of sound bites from those episodes. I put them together for this show today and it is just like so amazing, because these are all of the moments that really really stand out in my mind of like wow, that was a light bulb moment, that was an aha moment, that was something that made me really think long and hard about something and I can never look at it the same again. That's how I feel about these moments in the show. There are many other moments that didn't make the list, but these were my top five. I put all the links to the full episodes in the show notes for today in case you want to go and actually listen to the whole thing, and there's also links for the books that I recommend in the show for today as well. They're in the show notes. I'll also post the links for the guests that you hear about in the show today. So that's Dr David Lay, dr Justin Lee Miller, crystal Welch, key Barrett and my friend Ella.
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Speaker 1:All right, this really blew my fucking mind and I've never been able to like think about this the same ever since I first heard about it. So on the show was Key Barrett and he's got two of my favorite books, locked in Love and Surrender, submit and Serve Her. And that last book that I just mentioned is all about female leadership in relationships, or FLR, and before I had him on the show and talked to him, I really didn't know much at all about FLR. I only knew what the common stereotypes were Like. I'd only heard of, you know, flr being very like femdom and all about rules and consequences and tasks and stuff like that, and I so I really didn't know anything about it outside of that. And it wasn't until I had this conversation with Key Barrett and read his book where I was just like whoa, this is actually so much different than what I actually thought it was, and this key moment about unfiltering was just profound for me.
Speaker 1:I was just like, wow, I will never look at it the same again. And ever since then, I've noticed all of these instances where I have been able to unfilter or been aware of the filter that I have. Going on, so here it is. This is what he had to say.
Speaker 3:I'm going to start with the women's benefits, because I think that's what needs to be heard the most, because I think a lot of people have some assumptions about what the male benefits would be, and largely they're right. There's some ones where they're wrong, but for women there's a few. One women are taught from the get go and this goes back to Disney that you should filter your responses, right? Don't challenge, don't directly confront all these kind of things. You know it's not worth it is. You know it's going to rain today and you see your partner walking out the door without the umbrella. You're trained to say hey, do you think you should bring your umbrella? I think it might rain. Instead of take the umbrella, it's going to pour all day, right, yeah, because you've been trained that the response you'll get nine times out of ten is fuck you.
Speaker 4:I don't need an umbrella, you know, or something like that.
Speaker 3:Or fine, you know, like, who are you to tell me not to get wet? Yeah Well, with with female leadership, with the accepted roles in place, that goes away. Filtering goes away. You are empowered. You're not only allowed to say what you really mean, you're empowered to. And the flip side of that is men and submissive partners that are. You know, I don't want to just make this a dynamic of male and female right, submissive partners get frustrated by unclear decisions.
Speaker 3:One of the one of the things that almost all of the submissive partners said that they used to lament about and don't anymore is the idea that they would rather do a Herculean task with simple instructions than a simple task with Herculean instructions. Right, I would rather build a rock wall. If you tell me the rock wall needs to be this high and it needs to be there, and okay, I'll go do that, I know how to do that, right, and I can do this, and you'll be happy with the results. Tell me you want me to, you know, pick a vacation when I don't know where, I don't know. Okay, you've just created stress, or or filtering, you know, through that, instead of telling me I want to go to charlesteston and I want it to be in May.
Speaker 3:I think we should take a vacation. Do you think we should take a vacation? Where should we go? I don't want to go to the beach again. Just tell me what you want, sandra. Well, that goes away in a female-led relationship. She gets to say what she wants and describe what she's talking about with no fear of punishment, and he gets clear instructions and feels empowered because he gets to deliver right.
Speaker 1:And that was such a crazy moment for me it still is. I think a lot of people need to when they want to learn about FLR. Just put those stereotypes aside and look at some of those benefits for each person that's involved. These are like normal relationship kind of benefits, and it's not so much about kink and it's not so much about Bdsm and it's not so much about all of that stuff, that side of things.
Speaker 1:Um, there was something else that he talked about key barrett talked about in the locked in love book, where he talked about the um barter system when it comes to sex and I again another like moment of like, holy shit, I didn't even realize that that exists, but like, now that I know about it, I can never look at relationships the same again, like, and I now it's fascinating because I look at how that actually works, into how we, we behave in relationships. Oh my God, so mind blowing. I'll put the link to the full episode in the show notes for today, so make sure you listen to it is really really good. And also put the link to the full episode in the show notes for today. So make sure you listen to it. It's really really good and I'll also put the link for those couple of books that I mentioned.
Speaker 1:Okay, next up I have Crystal Welch, and we were having a conversation about how there's so many benefits for women in a cuckolding relationship and she dropped this one. That just really rung clear for me, because when she said cucks are a higher life form, they're an evolved species, I was like yes, that's exactly it.
Speaker 4:It just really hit. It hit right here. It is of their level of self-awareness and their ability to be vulnerable and their ability to be completely open and honest with who and what they are. They are, in my opinion, a higher life form. They are a more evolved man period period. They are not subject to the toxic masculinity that I see all around us all the time People that just want to silence women and ignore and hide any part of women's sexuality. The cuck male is kind of on the opposite spectrum of that. They are just a higher life form. They've done more personal growth work. They stay focused on the evolution of themselves and the relationship and again, this isn't just my husband, it's every single cuck in a solid marriage that we know. They all are like that.
Speaker 1:You know, I had not really even thought about this before she said it, but as soon as she said it I was like, yes, okay, that's exactly it. They have done some emotional work, cucks have done some emotional work that has given them the advantage of becoming this more evolved person and therefore this relationship is able to grow and thrive like hers and I was just like, wow, mind blown. I completely agree that cucks are an evolved species, a higher life form. She just got it bang on. All right. Next up I have. This was so cool. Dr Justin Lee Miller wrote the book Tell Me what you Want and when he was doing his research for people like studying people's fantasies he interviewed thousands, surveyed thousands of Americans about their fantasies and he learned a few things about cuckolding. This was so cool because he does talk a little bit in the show about how common it is with men versus women, which was fascinating. But there are a couple good nuggets in here about kink-related desires according to gender and also what that means about you.
Speaker 5:The link between BDSM and cuckolding is stronger for men than it is for women. So for men there seems to be more of this kind of kinky element to it. So one of the things I did look at was how is somebody's self-esteem related to whether or not they have cuckolding fantasies? I also looked at whether people felt secure in their relationship or not was related to these fantasies too. Because I think you could make a lot of hypotheses, for example, that maybe people who feel more secure in their relationship might be more likely to explore or experiment with cuckolding or some other type of sexual openness, because you know, they know that they've got that kind of secure base with their partner.
Speaker 5:Now it turned out there actually wasn't anything going on there. So whether people had cuckolding fantasies was unrelated to how secure they felt in their relationship. But I did find that there was a linkage to self-esteem, but it was really only there for men and it runs counterintuitive to what people might expect. So you might think that men with lower self-esteem fantasize more about cuckolding, given these strong themes of small penis, humiliation and so forth. But it was actually men with higher levels of self-esteem, more self-confidence, who were more likely to fantasize about cuckolding.
Speaker 1:I damn near lost my mind when he said that, because that's something that I have always felt about cucks is that they have high levels of self-esteem and that they have high levels of self-worth and self-confidence, and so I'd already felt like that over the years. So that's why it just makes me so mad the stereotype around cucks being weak and shit like that. Like it's so, not true, like it's so, not true. So when he said this that his research showed that cucks have higher levels of self-esteem and self-confidence than most people I was like validated, like I felt so seen and heard and everything. I was like, yes, that's exactly what I have been seeing, hearing and feeling over the last many years that I've been into this amazing kind of relationship and lifestyle. So that felt really amazing. That was awesome to be able to hear that.
Speaker 1:Next up I have Dr David Lay. He is the author of Insatiable Wives, women who Stray and the Men who Love them, and it's an excellent book on cuckolding. He's been a guest at least a couple of times on the show, and this is this clip that I'm going to play is from the first time that he was a guest on the show and up until that moment I had been dealing with well, even afterwards, but at least I understood after that moment. I've been dealing with a lot of these single cucks who are really into the fantasy, but then and they're just so fucking all in, they're just hyped up, amped up, it's all they want to talk about. They're so interested in everything and then when it comes to like meeting in person or making things shit real, they're just like poof, disappear.
Speaker 1:They're chronic ghosters, worse than regular dating, and I could not. But they would always come back. They would always come back at some point with some lame ass excuse and try to weasel the way back into my life. And I was so frustrated by it so I asked Dr Lee about it. Why do I see this in so many guys, where they're so into it and yet they just disappear? It seems like shame. And this was his response. And, oh my God, after this episode episode, I literally broke down in tears. I, because I was so glad to finally understand I'd never had any kind of explanation from these guys.
Speaker 2:So here's what he had to say there's been a tremendous amount of research now that has looked at self-identified sex addicts and porn addicts and has found that kind of. I was right, and you, venus, hit the nail on the head that this is really about shame, that the people who identify as being addicted to sex, people who report that they are really, really struggling to control their sexual behaviors in most cases, the behaviors that they are struggling to control are the sexual desires or fantasies that they have that they are deeply ashamed of. The interesting thing is that the greater the level of shame you have around asexual desire, the less self-control people actually seem to feel regarding it. The more you hate yourself for having asexual desire or fantasy that you feel like you shouldn't have, the greater difficulty you have controlling it and making it go away, because the more we fight our sexuality, the more we fight our sexual desires. Oftentimes, paradoxically, the stronger they become, stronger they become.
Speaker 2:People who have more compassion for themselves and for their sexuality have greater levels of self-control. They are less likely to view those sexual desires or fantasies as an addiction or something that they have to fight. So the last thing is I try and help these guys to accept that they're a person that has these fantasies, to accept that they're a person that you know. These sexual desires that they think they shouldn't have are a part of them. Can you love yourself for having those aspects to your sexuality? Can you explore how those aspects might actually help you to see the world in a different way, to see masculinity in a different way, to see your life in a different way?
Speaker 1:a different way. That was such a powerful moment for me. Like I said, I've gone years with guys acting that way and I could not understand why I had women call into the show and they were so frustrated because their boyfriend was like so into it and then you know he started acting weird and withdrawing and you know pushing away and all that and that just like mixed messages like I had so many mixed messages over the years from guys who were just like so fucking into this fantasy and then would just like push away and disappear and do all of that shit, like what the fuck is happening. After I heard that on that episode with Dr David Lay, it all made sense. But it also was pretty heartbreaking because that's when I realized, holy shit, all of these guys, these cucks, are carrying around this like really debilitating level of shame around having this desire, this fantasy so many of them. It's affecting them. I'm sure it's affecting themselves and their mental health, but also it's affecting their relationships as well. And it made me really wonder, like how many guys are able to be compassionate and accepting about themselves eventually? I'm sure it's a journey, it's what I've heard it's a journey of acceptance, but how many guys don't actually get to the, this fantasy, hating themselves because this is what they happen to be into. I mean, it was a little bit heartbreaking for me. It was very heartbreaking for me to realize that so many guys were carrying around this shame, because for me, as a woman in this lifestyle, and for so many other women who you know, you bring this up to us you're like, hey, how about this? And we're like, oh my God, that sounds amazing and as women, it's all fun for us and we don't realize that the guy is actually holding on to all of this baggage, this shame, this guilt, this self hatred, self loathing for having this kind of fantasy, but they are not talking, they're not communicating that to us, they're not talking about it to us, and that can be like so difficult. How do you navigate that in a relationship?
Speaker 1:So, speaking of the communication skills, my top number one, most amazing episode where I learned so fucking much was with a guest named Ella, and the reason why we started talking about this was because there was this article that was written in Psychology Today and I will post the link to it in the show notes for today because you have to read it. It's basically saying that in the dating landscape for today of what's happening, women are really demanding that men learn the skills that they need the communication skills that they need in these kinds of relationships that women want and need, and how that can be so beneficial if they do actually learn those skills, and why those skills are not there in the first place. This is absolutely fascinating fucking article. Anyway, it went viral because it was titled the Rise of Single, lonely Men and yes, there are some controversial things that are said in that article, but it is by far a call to action, a positive call to action for men and, like, as you can imagine, it was very controversial so it did go viral. But her and I we talked about like what does this mean for relationships? But what does this specifically mean for a cuckolding relationship? She dropped so many mics in this episode. I was just like mind fucking blown and I will say, out of in the five years I've been doing this podcast, this one episode with ella was the most, I think, exciting as far as like the reaction from the listeners. I had so much feedback from people who absolutely loved this episode. It seemed like if you listen to this episode you were kind of shook after, like you were not going to be able to see the world in the same way that you did before. That's how I felt and that's how so many other people felt when they listened to this show. So here are a few clips of what she had to say in that episode. Here we go.
Speaker 1:The last time you were on the show you we talked a lot about some really interesting things, but one of the things that literally fucking shook the listeners One of the things that literally fucking shook the listeners me too was something that you said about self introspection on behalf of men. So what you said was and this is how it came up we were talking about communication and you were saying that you know varsity level communication is required for this. And I was like, yes, varsity, not kindergarten varsity and you said it's more than just knowing how to talk and knowing how to listen, which is, I think, what most people think about when they think about communication. But you said it's things like do you know what to say, do you know how to describe your feelings, do you know what your interior experience is? And those kind of things require for you to be able to interrogate yourself about why you're feeling something, the way you feel and all of that which, like you said on the show last time, can be scary and it can be uncomfortable and not a place that some guys really want to go to. They want to think about how fun and exciting and wank off material cuckolding is Right and this other side of it is. I don't want to have to deal with that, um, so we were talking about that and then I think I I just quipped some little thing like oh, do you think guys actually have the ability to, you know, integrate themselves emotionally?
Speaker 1:And because I was like I doubt it, but then you fucking slammed it down with this. You said when we talk about living under the patriarchy, one of the privileges that men and male body people can get away with is they don't have to be introspective about how they feel, because the world doesn't interrupt it enough for it to be necessary. You said systems work for men because they're built for men. And that was just like mic drop shit, like I had so many people who were contacting me afterwards saying, oh my God, what a great show. That was amazing. She had so many great things to say, but that one part where she said that part about you know it, systems are built for men I guys were like it's like seeing something that you can never unsee afterwards, they were, like you know, enlightened completely after that and just shook by it because they never even thought about it that way. But it is so true, right, and so I remember that. I remember that.
Speaker 1:And then recently, when this viral article happened on psychologytodaycom the Psychology Today magazine there was a psychologist by the name of Greg Matos I don't know how to pronounce it where he titled it the Rise of Single Lonely Men.
Speaker 1:Titled it the Rise of Single Lonely Men. And as soon as I read this because the title is like wait, what he was saying, that you know, one of the key points is that there's been an increase in relationship standards. So women are becoming more choosy about what they want, and they are saying that they want men who are emotionally available, good communicators and share the same values. Like you said, the values are really important to you and you want to find someone who kind of lines up with that. And so he was saying that there is an actual skills gap when it comes to emotional intelligence and communication that men are likely not even aware exists. And it wasn't until I read that that I remembered that quote from you about the systems are made for men in a way that it makes them not have to analyze their interior experience. And I was like, oh my gosh, like all of these light bulbs like started pinging and I was like, holy fuck, she's, so she's. That's exactly what she was talking about.
Speaker 6:Yeah, there's a skills deficit and the standard is higher and you do have to come to the table a more healthy, whole, complete person. And women are all coming up Like if you're a cis hetero or if you're a hetero woman, and you're raising your hand, being like, yeah, I can't find a man who's on my level, I can't find I'm in the dating pool. And not only are they not on my level, they're abusive. Level. They're abusive.
Speaker 6:I hope men are listening. I hope men are understanding that we want you to be here with us, we want you to come into the fold, we want you to be moving forward and, like, we want you to be in the circle. We want you to be involved. But there's a standard and our well-being and safety trumps your happiness. Quote unquote. And that is a tough reality for some of these men. It's a tough awakening to a world that feels like it's rejecting them. But we're not rejecting them, we're just saying you have to go back to school and learn and get better and then you can come join the club. You need to go from kindergarten level and learn and get better and then you can come join the club.
Speaker 1:You need to go from kindergarten level to varsity level.
Speaker 6:Yes, exactly, start at square one, baby boy, and then come back and see us and if you're trying and you mean well, and you really can interrogate some toxic shit this is the thing I've always said really can interrogate some toxic shit. That this is the thing I've always said. My favorite quote about the patriarchy comes from bell hooks. Uh, rest in power. Uh, they said.
Speaker 6:The first act of violence is not of the patriarchy, is not towards women. The first act of violence is towards the self. It's called the psychic self-mutilation of the boy. It is the psychic self-mutilation of the boy. It is the psychic self-mutilation that young boys go through in order to be pushed through that system that says you can only act this way, you can only behave this way, you can only look this way, you can only sound this way, and it is toxic. And they are victims of the patriarchy too, and we could have so much empathy and sympathy and room for the growth that they need to go through if we weren't unsafe. Where we feel safe, there's room for you when we don't feel safe. That is a line. Everyone deserves to feel like they belong.
Speaker 6:It breaks my heart to hear that men are feeling rejected and it's like. That's not the point of saying this, that's not the point of freeing this information. The point in saying this and having articles like Psychology Today is to say that this is the reality of what we're living through and you are a part of it and you have to own your part in it. And if we can collaborate and work together, that means that you have a lot of responsibility. You have a lot of responsibility as the people who still fucking hold power, who hold the levers of society, who hold the money. For Christ's sake, when men go through patriarchal norms and standards, their identity is reduced. You know their interior world is reduced. You know their interior world is reduced and put it, I would say, at harm, like you're not allowed to cry, not allowed to feel stuff, not allowed to feel things, you're not allowed to really, in essence, you're not allowed to do, say or display things that are coded as feminine.
Speaker 6:And therein lies the misogyny, because that scene is less than the misogyny, because that scene is less than that scene is bad. That scene is and that's how you know patriarchy and misogyny is about is anti-feminine, anti-femininity and gender is such a spectrum like can we? It's like I love, I hate how this keeps us in the binary. But things that are feminine are just human. They're, we're all just human together. There's nothing about anger that's masculine or unique to masculinity, and there's nothing about, like you know, sensitivity or hurt feelings or crying that is unique, like it's just so ridiculous when you think about it. You're like every single human being and let's expand to Steve and other species on the planet. We know animals feel, we know this is what happens. This is what it means to be alive on this earth.
Speaker 6:It is to feel these things and so like opening that up and expanding that and inviting men in saying you're allowed to be in here, you're allowed to do this, but it's a scary move for them, it's a risky move for them, they give up power, they have to own parts of themselves that have been detached, demeaned and abused, and so they got to open all this up in order to access this communication, in order to access this relational expertise that we're talking about.
Speaker 1:And so I have felt like and maybe guys assume that dating in the cuckolding lifestyle is the same as dating in the vanilla lifestyle, where they just have to put up a profile and talk and chit chat and impress her with a few little lines first lines and you know, like that kind of thing, and then shit will happen kind of relationship dating in the cuckolding lifestyle.
Speaker 1:I'm like you have to really do the fucking work on yourself and you have to put in the effort, and so one of the things that I thought was really interesting about what this guy said is that level up for this is to the guys level up your mental health game. That means getting into some individual therapy to address your skills gap. It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively. It means seeing intimacy, romance and emotional connection as worthy of your time and effort. That is amazing because he's saying you need to make this a priority and you need to take the initiative to go and learn all of these skills that you need to bring to the table, and he says how to do it and that is how you do it.
Speaker 6:You go to fucking therapy. That's just what we did, that's what I did, that's what everyone does, and if they can love themselves and realize that they're not less of a man, like you said, like this is toxic masculinity. When these guys are afraid of their fantasies, afraid of their desires, like feel like a loser, feel whatever, I mean, my heart goes out to them. It's like, well, it's kind of obvious. I'm like hello, you were taught to feel that way. That's not true. That's not the laws. You were just taught to feel that way through a set of values. That's harmful and toxic. Change your mind.
Speaker 1:And there it is. That was the part. Well, there were so many parts, but that was the part where she said change your mind, where I was just like that is amazing. She said so many things that like I had never really thought about before, and obviously lots of listeners that never really thought about before, until she just like spit out facts like that and you're just like holy shit, that's a lot. But it really does make me have empathy for guys who struggle with their own fantasies, their own desires and not being able to have the skills to be able to work through that in a fucking tragedy. I look back at all of these. Learning even more is understanding the cuckold experience, the understanding what is like in that, inside the mind of a cuckold. It is just to me that is incredible, and I love and adore cucks so much. I want to see all cucks thrive in this with themselves, but also in relationships, and so learning about these tools to be able to do that has just been like, oh my God, amazing. Those are my top five episodes.
Speaker 1:There's also some really great episodes that did not make the cut to this list, and one of them is called the Wounded Bull. It's with Scarlett and Drew Marston that talks about psychological wounding of bulls in the lifestyle and what that behavior looks like and how that's problematic and stuff like that. And then there was also one lady who goes by the name of Lady Wren and she was talking about her. She'd been married for like 30 years. She went from a completely vanilla marriage into a very, very kinky marriage, and one of the most impactful things that she said to me when I said like I asked her, how did it make you feel when he finally divulged these fantasies that he'd been having and hiding for so long and her comment to that was really powerful she said something to the effect of it made me really sad that he felt like he couldn't approach me, he couldn't trust me to say these things, to tell me these things, and so I thought that was just a really powerful moment and I think it goes to show that when you're with somebody who you love and trust, that they recognize and understand, when you are being vulnerable with them, and when you're sharing things that are very deep and possibly things that you've kept secret for a long time, they understand what that gift is, and it is a gift that this person is able to do. That means that you are a safe place for them, and that means a lot in a marriage, in a relationship. Okay, that's it for today's episode. I hope you enjoyed it. I've been waiting to do this episode for so long because, like, these are really profound moments for me and my learning journey when it comes to cuckolding.
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