The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Confessions: Help! She Says No to Cuckolding, What Can I Do?
Venus tackles the challenging situation when partners express a firm "no" to cuckolding but you still desire it. She explores practical alternatives for couples to explore this fantasy without crossing established boundaries.
• Understanding your partner's specific reasons for saying no is crucial
• Safety concerns, relationship risks, and lifestyle timing can all be valid reasons for resistance
• Dirty talk about previous partners or imaginary scenarios can trigger cuckolding arousal
• Incorporating toys, especially larger dildos, can simulate the experience without involving others
• The "Is It True?" game creates exciting uncertainty through maybe-real flirtations
• Approaching these activities as "mental stripteases" rather than formal role play feels less awkward
• For partners uncomfortable discussing sex generally, addressing communication skills comes first
• Women's sexual safety concerns are legitimate based on real experiences
• Your desires matter even in submissive dynamics, but approach conversations respectfully
• Consider consulting kink-aware couples therapists if needed
If you have questions or confessions for the show, visit venuscuckoldress.com and click on the podcast link. Join the Queens Quarters community for more exclusive content and live events.
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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Let's go, think you're going to love it, because I have heard about people having this issue for a long time. Lots of you, I'm sure listening, are going to be able to come out. Come away, hopefully, with some great advice and tips and suggestions about what to do when your wife is a hard no to sleeping with other guys, like she's just like fuck no. Or she's like a maybe to role play or having some fun with the idea around it, but not actually sleeping with other guys. And how? What do you do? Where do you? Where do you start? How do you do that together? So thank you to everybody who's been sending in your voice notes, your confessions, comments and questions for the show over the last several months. I've not been ignoring you. I just haven't been able to do one of these confessions episodes, so I will eventually get to them. Maybe, maybe yours might show up on a future show. If you are interested in submitting a question, comment or steaming confession for the show, all you have to do is go to venuscuckledresscom. Click on the link that says the podcast and on there is super easy. You just click a button and you have up to five minutes to submit your question, comment or confession and you never know, it might end up on the show.
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Speaker 2:Hello Venus, this is Jim Hsu. I have been a fan for such a long time. It's really great to see how far you've come. I was a fan before the podcast even started and I love listening to all the podcasts. But anyway, the motivation for my message today is maybe an open discussion or seeking some advice or maybe a little help from the community on some of the thoughts I have.
Speaker 2:A number of years ago I got into a relationship. I'm in a relationship now same one. A number of years ago. Early on in the relationship I expressed my interests in a number of things, tried to, you know, do the right thing communicating what I like, my dislikes you know things like that Primarily focusing on what I like, my dislikes you know things like that Primarily focusing on, you know, the female-led relationship. And then, of course, my experience with cuckolding, which was maybe not quite as fulfilling as it could have been, but it was an experience that introduced me to cuckolding. That introduced me to cuckolding and I, you know, figured out, I guess, that I am a cuckold through that you know long process of, you know year, year and a half of discovery with in a previous relationship.
Speaker 2:But anyway, my current partner has fully and totally embraced a female led relationship, absolutely loves it. It's it's totally for her. Um, she's even to the point of indulging my foot fetish as part of the dynamic. I mean, it is absolutely great, you know, however, um was a hard no on cuckolding, was a hard no on cuckolding, just not for her. Um, it's not something for everybody. I can understand that, um. I I put it out there and communicated it to her and um did my part. Uh, and then kind of put it out of my mind. I I did not want to upset the dynamic that had been developing on the female-led relationship side. I feel like as a submissive guy in relationships, I felt like I hit gold with that and the last thing I wanted to do was upset that apple cart.
Speaker 2:And I thought perhaps the interest in cuckolding might wane. It has not. I think about it all the time. I don't. I mean, it's part of me, it's, it's shaped who I am. Uh, at discovery process, uh, years ago, shoot, it's probably been. Uh, almost 20 years ago, um, and never, uh, never had it again, never had that type of relationship again and only mustered the courage to to say it in this new uh relationship. That's, uh, quite a few years on now.
Speaker 2:Um, as a, you know, an effort to communicate and be open. Uh, it has and, like I said, it has not waned, um, so I'm at a crossroads. Should I bring it up again? You know, is that kind of leaning into the neighborhood, of becoming about me when I know she was a hard? No, I mean, it's been put out there so that option is available to her, but it's never been brought up again. It's never been mentioned. It's just not who she is, but it's never been brought up again. It's never been mentioned, it's just not who she is.
Speaker 2:So I don't want to make it about me, but I also want to make sure I, you know, communicate my needs and interests as well. Is that, is that advisable? I don't know. I don't know where to go with that and I thought, before I made any moves or changes or upset the apple cart, so to speak, I would throw it out there to the community and to you. Maybe it's podcast worthy to have a discussion, or maybe just receive some advice, and I value your thoughts on this as an authority in this area. So I appreciate your time and thanks for listening.
Speaker 1:So first off, I just want to say a big thank you to Jim for calling in and asking this question, because I get asked this a lot, so I'm happy to talk about it and give some suggestions or advice. For anybody who is not aware of who Jim Hsu is, he's an author and I actually have one of his books and he writes about female domination and foot fetishes and you can buy his books on Amazon. It's Jim and then last name spelled S-H-U-E. I will put the link in the show notes for today if you're interested in buying some of his books. Okay, what to do when your wife says hard no to cuckolding? And I really appreciate how you worded this, jim, because you're already in an FLR. You don't want this to make this sound like this is about you. You don't want to be topping from the bottom or whatever people call it, but this is important to you, so do you bring it up again? And I totally get that. You don't want to risk what you already have, because you did kind of win the lottery when it comes to being submissive and having a wife who is really happy to embrace that about you and embrace your foot fetish. Like, yeah, I get it. That's not something you want to throw away. That's not something you want to even risk throwing away. So this is going to be tricky.
Speaker 1:First of all, I need to know what's the reason why she said no. And I find this with a lot of guys who call in and or write in or just like, okay, my wife said no, what do I do? And they go on and on and on about what should I do. What should I do, but very few, if any of them, actually explain her reasons as to why she said no. And that's the important part, right? Because I can't tell you what to do if I don't know exactly why she's feeling the way that she feels. And you should know that. You obviously should know the reasons why she said no, hard no. So I'm just going to talk a little bit about a few of the common reasons why women say no and what you can do if either one of those answers were one of the ones that she gave you.
Speaker 1:But first of all, I'd say probably the most common reason why women say no to cuckolding is they either have like an icky feeling about it, like they just can't get over the fact that you know sleeping with strangers or they're just, they have a real love affair with monogamy and anything outside of that is giving them the ick, and I totally get that. There's a lot of women who just the thought of this is just like, nah, I could never go there. And if that's the case then she's probably not ever going to be into it and it is going to stay a hard no, forever. But it could be that maybe she feels like cuckolding is just too risky for her and I completely understand that and for those of you listening, this could mean a variety of things, like I'm talking about risk as in risk for STIs and risk for her safety. I mean she's meeting up with random guys who she doesn't know. There could be all sorts of things that happen he drugs, her rapes, her assaults, her Like.
Speaker 1:For myself, I had a few really scary instances, but the worst was when I went to go meet up with a guy who I had not met before and I had a bad feeling about it, but I went anyway. I was reassured by my cuck boyfriend at the time that you know, it's all good, you can go, and it turned out to be horrific. I was told at one point during the night that I was not allowed to leave and I was really fucking scared. I was no longer free to leave. I was told that I was going to be staying there and it was really scary because this guy was getting violent and I had to. Luckily I was able to phone the police, but I ran, I physically ran out of there and hid and it was on the phone with the 911 dispatcher and I was scared. I mean, I was shook. I have, ever since that happened I rarely meet up with guys randomly. Like that ever again like that scared me to the core, and so that's a real concern safety.
Speaker 1:But also there's a. She might perceive it as a risk to your relationship or a risk to you psychologically, mentally, a risk for your mental health. Like how would he cope with this? He says it turns him on, but this is jealousy we're talking about. This affects guys in a lot of really negative ways historically. And also a risk for your relationship, as in like, what happens if this doesn't work out? And he weaponizes this against me, the fact that I slept with somebody else and, you know, does this mean the end of our relationship? And so there, yes, there are big risks that women have to consider when it comes to embarking in this journey together down the cuckolding road, to embarking in this journey together down the cuckolding road, or maybe her reason for it being a hard no.
Speaker 1:At that time when you talked to her about it a long time ago, maybe at that point in her life, this was just too much to ask for, and I get that too. Like, maybe she was just busy as fuck, working like crazy long hours at work and this asking this of her was just too much to add to that already really chaotic, busy plate that she had going on. And that is fair. And that's why I think it's crazy that, like, some guys bring this up to their wife. When you have babies newborn babies at home, little kids at home, toddlers, multiple kids at home Like, for fuck's sakes, you're bringing this up at the most crazy, chaotic, extremely stressful part of her life and you want her to now dress up sexy and take this on and go and do this thing and like be this sex diva and everything like that. Wow, there's a lot to ask for that part of her life where she's just barely holding it together, sleep deprived and her body's changed and it's crazy. Okay, that's a lot. So I get it could be that at that point in her life it was just too much to ask, not something that she could take on, and it was a hard no, because it felt like a chore.
Speaker 1:But you know, I think that there's several things that maybe you might be able to do. Like I said, if this is an icky feeling for her and she's just like way too in love with monogamy to even, you know, entertain the thought of anything outside of monogamy, then she's probably, this will probably never be a thing that she's willing to do. Okay, but what if it's safety? What if it is safety for herself or safety for you or the relationship that she's concerned about? There are things that you can do, lots of things that you can do together to kind of like scratch that cuckolding itch, to flip that cuckolding switch in your brain that gives you a boner and makes you all excited, makes you all excited. There's stuff, lots of things that you can do, that don't include her actually fucking other dudes. Okay, tons of stuff.
Speaker 1:And these are the honestly, for me, these are the fun parts of cuckolding, I think, where we the whole her sleeping with other guys thing is way too fucking overrated. And I get that's the porn script, that's the ultimate fantasy, that's the getting your cuck cherry popped kind of moment that all guys have in their mind that they're not a real cuck unless she slept with another dude. Well, I'm here to say that is bullshit. There's lots of couples out there who, singles even to, who are living their best cuckolding lives in different ways than just that. Okay, lots, and this is something I've learned over the years which just completely has blown my mind and I've learned to absolutely fucking love about this lifestyle is that there's way more creativity than just her sleeping with other guys, and what I'm talking about is things like okay, you can have a lot of fun with dirty talk, even when you're just having sex together or you're eating her out or whatever, and she's just, you know, loving it and whatever.
Speaker 1:She can say these little things to you, little comments about a previous guy that she was with before you, or guys celebrities she thinks is hot, or like, oh, whatever, just her deepest, darkest fantasies. That might include, you know, some different type of guy. I mean, there's a lot of things that she could say. There's a lot of things that you could say. The stuff that you could say together in those sexy moments that can really touch on cuckolding and that is so fun, like, so fun. You can really get into that. But there's also like the teasing part. If you are somebody who gets into like the whole, loves the size comparison part or the skin contrast or interracial or whatever, like there's a lot of stuff that she can tease you about that has to do with cuckolding, that doesn't involve her sleeping with another guy but can absolutely work you up into your little cuck frenzy in your mind and make it so that you lose control.
Speaker 1:But also, oh my gosh, okay, lots of toys that you can play with. I know lots of couples who brought toys into the bedroom different size dildos and different color dildos and whatever, and you know, assign them a name and almost like dirty talk with them. Like she can pretend that, like she's with this other guy when she's having sex with this dildo or whatever. Like that does it for a lot of guys. Just the creativity, the imagination about her doing that with somebody else. That does it for them. It's super fun and exciting. But then of course, you can watch cuck porn together. I personally don't like a lot of the. I don't. I don't really love a lot of the cuck porn that's out there, but maybe you guys can make a fun little adventure of it and try to find ones that you actually like together and watch it together, like that would be, so I think that would be really hot. I've had tons of guys over the years send me their favorite cuck porn videos. Okay, I get it. You guys have lots no-transcript, um, okay, also okay.
Speaker 1:Last but not least, this is like the easiest one, I think. But that has the most reward when it comes to doing cuckolding without actually her sleeping with other guys, is maybe she would be okay with simply flirting with other guys and knowing that it and being very clear that it's not going to go any further than just flirting. But that's where she can incorporate kind of like the dirty talk. Or did you see me like how I, you know, got that guy's phone number and you know couples who go to the bar and like she pretends she's single and the husband's, like you know, over in the corner watching the cuck chair in the restaurant or in the bar and um watching her flirt with other guys.
Speaker 1:Like, oh my god, that's pretty safe, I think. And, um, super hot, like you can have so much fun with that. Like, if she's up for that, oh, the fun adventures that you can have would be so great. So, yes, there's a lot that you can do that involves cuckolding. That might flip that little cuck switch in your brain and give you your little boner and make fun times for both of you that don't actually involve her sleeping with another guy. It's just a matter of sitting down and talking to her about. You know what that might look like and and could you actually do that together.
Speaker 1:Now, if she's in, if the reason why she was a hard no to cuckolding was because she this is just too much for her to ask, for you to ask of her, this is too much to put on her plate, then all I'm going to say to that is like, maybe she's in a different place today than she was back then. You said that you guys had this conversation a long time ago and that you've been together a long time. Maybe this was something that at that time just did not work for her. She just felt like no, that's too much work, it's another job I got to do, it's a chore, it's something that I just can't take that on. I don't foresee that ever happening. Maybe things have changed since then. Everybody grows and evolves and relationships grow and evolve, and I think it's totally fair for you to check in and just figure out if that's still the case or not. And if she's still like, yeah, I'm just overwhelmed or whatever, then maybe that this is the opportunity to really bring in a kink aware couples therapist who might be able to help you guys kind of get over that or work through it or figure out if indeed there is no way around that barrier. And I will put in the show notes for today's episode a link to kink aware professionals directory in the US and also a link for a resource in Australia.
Speaker 1:So, jim, lastly, I will just say that, yes, I think it is totally okay for you to bring this up and to talk about it, revisit this, even though she said it was a hard no back then, because, as, even though she said it was a hard no back then, because, as and I appreciate that you said you don't want it to be about you or all about you. At the end of the day, this is about both of you and your desires and your feelings and your fantasies do matter, and even if you are in a submissive role in a female-led relationship, you absolutely matter. What you desire absolutely matters and it should matter to her. Okay, I'm also going to post this question out there in the Queens Quarters community. That's my free access community for limited free access for everyone. All you have to do is sign up. That's at venuscuckoldresscom and I'm going to put this in there and you can chime in as well on what your thoughts are on this question, this topic.
Speaker 3:Hi Venus. So I've had this fantasy for years and I finally told my wife about it a few months back and I really researched and prepared the explanation of why I find the idea of her being a hot wife or cuckolding arousing at all. She was like I get it. She pretty much said it would never happen, it's not her thing at all, and she talked about how at this stage of her life she needs to love someone, to have sex with them, and there's just too much risk involved and I totally understand all that and I'm accepting that this will never happen in real life.
Speaker 3:But I asked her if she'd be open to role playing about it and she said she would, but she didn't know where to start. It's just like such a foreign concept to her and it's not something that arouses her to role play. So she gets super awkward and uncomfortable and draws a blank and she has a hard time talking about sex in general and we haven't even ever role played anything before because she feels awkward doing it and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable. So I was wondering if you had any tips for me on how I can help her get better or more into the idea of role-playing, Because if we could role-play, that could scratch my itch and I could definitely be fine with not doing anything like this in real life. So what do you think? Thanks so much.
Speaker 1:I love this question and it does kind of piggyback on what we were just talking about with role play and teasing and all that good stuff and all the fun that you can have around cuckolding without her actually sleeping with another guy. So we're to start with this. Okay, I hate that word role play because I feel like I totally get it. It's awkward as fuck and I I I'm not, I'm not a big fan of like the what you think of when you think of that word role play, and to me that in my mind it's like you're setting a scene. It's kind of like how you watch cuck porn and there's, like I'm talking about like professional cuck porn where it's like there's like this like screenplay going on where you know a ride and like, or you know, like it's some super cheesy like storyline and she's got to like play this the scene out with her boyfriend or her husband or whatever, where they're gonna like pretend to do cuckolding and I don't know. I can't think of anything less fun and less sexy than that Because, like it just in my mind feels very fake and very forced and just really like a boner killer for me, really A lady boner killer, and I don't know I'm assuming that, like your girlfriend is or your partner is feeling the same way, and so I just I hate that word role play. To me it seems forced, it seems like something that you're like setting the stage for and it's like really fake and not very fun. And you have to be good at like acting and you got to constantly think about like is my partner buying into this? Does this seem real? At like acting and you got to constantly think about like is my partner buying into this? Does this seem real? Like I got to do this at a certain level where it seems like the real thing and like the pressure to do that and I don't know I get it. So I don't think that it's probably ideal to think about it as role play. I think it's probably better to think about it as like just having fun and playing a game together and incorporating little things here and there and just playing with that instead, and what I mean by that is okay.
Speaker 1:First of all, I'll say if she you said she's not really even comfortable talking about sex and I get that, because I know lots of women and lots of guys who are not comfortable having those conversations, let's face it. I would say in a lot of vanilla relationships that's not something that just comes naturally. That's not something that just comes naturally. That's like a skill you have to have to be able to sit down and be vulnerable in the sex talk department. That's not something that a lot of couples have gotten to or feel comfortable with, or something that they do regularly is talk about that kind of thing. So if that's where she's at, if that's really her level of comfort is like not going there when it comes to that conversation then she's definitely not going to be comfortable with any kind of play in this department. And I could totally understand why she wouldn't be comfortable with cuckolding, because I'm sure that that's just really far out there for her. But anyway, if she's really not comfortable talking about sex, then you guys uh, you've got some work to do together and, yeah, she might want to think about going to a therapist, a sex aware, kink aware, kink friendly therapist, to learn the skills to be comfortable talking about sex. And if she's not ready to even do that, there's the book Tell Me what you Want by Dr Justin Lay Miller, which has in the back of that book OK, it's fascinating book as it is, but in the back of the book he gives some really great advice on how to talk to your partner about your desires and how to receive that information well and all of that sort of stuff and how to build on that together. So that could be a start, but definitely she needs to feel comfortable talking about sex and so think about therapy. That might help, okay.
Speaker 1:So once she's comfortable talking about sex, I would definitely, like I say, avoid that kind of like the stigma around or a stereotype around role play that were those word role play because, um, I think if you talk about think about it more as like a mental striptease, she might be more easy, easily able to like, picture what that is. Because, like all women know what a striptease is, we all know that we might not be comfortable doing physically doing a striptease is. We all know that we might not be comfortable doing physically doing a striptease, but we know what that is, we know what the purpose of it is. And if you get her to think about it as like a psychological striptease, like okay, I might not be able to picture what that actually is, but I kind of understand how that works. Like this is just going to be like a fun little game where you're going to like press his buttons to turn him on psychologically. Okay, and if you can explain it, that's it in that way to her, she might be able to be like Okay, yeah, maybe I can do this kind of thing and that might be something that you can get into more easily as well, because it's less pressure of like having to set up this like scene and this pretend play and like all of that shit that goes along with that. I know that in the kink world setting, doing a quote unquote like a scene is like that's like a normal thing, that's like a very common thing, and then people are really comfortable doing that. But I don't think that either of you come from the kink world and so this is foreign and this is new, and so it's baby steps right now. Okay, what she needs to do, what do you both need to do? Because this is a two way street.
Speaker 1:I talk a lot about like, okay, she needs to learn about you and your cuckolding desires, but it goes the other way too. Like you need to really learn about what turns her on too, and she might not even know that yet, but eventually you will know this and she will know this about you. But she needs to figure out what it is that turns you on. And that's so easy to say, but it's a little bit more difficult because that involves her really kind of extracting that from your cuck brain and you need to help her to do that. So that involves the conversations around what turns you on, and this is why goes back to what I said about if she's not ready to talk about sex yet, then she's got to learn those skills first. But you guys need to talk about and figure out what exactly turns you on, and maybe you don't even know all the things that turn you on. You haven't thought about it in a way where you can articulate that to your partner yet. So maybe you've got some work to do with this, but you need to really sit down and figure it out.
Speaker 1:So she needs to write down these what I call like cuck triggers, those little things that she can say or do that would really turn you on, things that maybe you've seen in porn or you've imagined or you fantasized about. That like really you're like oh yeah, that does it for me. She needs to come up with this little magic little list and write it down and then with that information she can get creative. So I'm going to give you some examples on that. So lots of guys, lots of guys with cuck desires, cuck fantasies, really get off on the whole angsty bit of her sleeping with another guy who is different in some way than him, and so sometimes that means more capable sexually than him, sometimes it means just a variation in experience. Maybe this guy has, like more skills than him or something like that. But lots of guys have that fantasy and so they want to know all of the details around her sleeping with somebody else.
Speaker 1:And so, without her sleeping with another guy, what she can do is actually talk about experience, sex experiences that she's had previously with previous boyfriends, or one night stands or whatever guys that she's been with before. And I know that, like my first cock boyfriend loved to hear about my body count. He loved it, and the more I talked about it the hotter it was for him, and so like I understood that shit, this, this really turns this guy on, like the more slutty I have been in my before him, like the more he likes to hear about it. So I knew that that was something I could play with. So she could, if you're into that, she can talk about maybe the biggest guy that she's ever been with, or the guy that was like so fun to ride his dick dick. Or the guy that fucked her in this way that you, she had never been fucked before, like it was so unique, or whatever, like there's lots of things that she could talk about that would really get you turned on and so that would be really fun. And the more details that she gives, the better and and just really get into it. She could even exaggerate some details. Who the fuck cares? This is about pressing your cuck buttons. This is all about cuck triggers. So she could really get into it. I mean, go for it, girl.
Speaker 1:Another example is okay, a lot of guys are into small penis humiliation and I remember my first cuck boyfriend. He was like his dick size was like actually a way above average, and yet he really liked small penis humiliation and loved, loved it when I talked about having sex with guys who were bigger than him. So there you go. Not all cucks have small dicks, but that's just a stereotype. But anyway, if you're into that, if you're like, yeah, I find that really hot, that thought of her sleeping with another guy who was like way bigger than me, then things that she can do to play with that, that whole scenario without actually sleeping with another guy.
Speaker 1:This is one of my favorites, because it's like so easy when you guys are having sex. All she needs to do is just whisper into your ear are you in? Yet Like I can't even feel you, and sometimes that's the truth. Um, I guarantee, if that is something that gets you off her doing that, oh my god, you're just gonna like instantly come and lose control. Um, it is such an easy thing to do and sometimes it can be so unexpected for the guy that he's just like oh, oh god. Oh, it couldn't be easier. So, yeah, are you in? Yet I can barely feel you. And then she could easily say something like I wish that you could go as deep as so and so fill in the blank like some guy that she's had before, who she's talked about, to you Anyway, these are like easy little things that she could do that will just like if you get into small penis humiliation, you will fucking die, like you're going to die.
Speaker 1:You'll be like oh my God, that is the hottest thing, hottest fucking thing Because it's right as you're having sex with her, right as you're like really going for it, it's just so fun. The other thing that you can do is buy like a sheath, I think it's called. It's like this, like dick that goes over top of your dick and it's bigger and like girthier than yours and you fuck her with that. So obviously you can't feel anything because this thing's over your dick, but you're in, you're like controlling it, just like it was your dick. And, um, she gets to enjoy having getting fucked with a bigger dick and you get to listen to the difference in how she moans, how her body reacts Super fucking, hot and very I don't want to say humiliating, but it is at the same time for you but super fun for her. So that's another thing that you can do.
Speaker 1:And if you guys are in or if you are into interracial cuckolding, you get really you get off on the whole black bull thing. Like everybody knows, I'm into that. Okay, there's lots that you can do with that, to play around with that without her actually sleeping with another guy. So you can get these temporary Queen of Spades tattoos I know tons of people who have them and you can play with that. She can put those on and it'll be really sexy, really fun. There's Queen of Spades undies, there's t-shirts, there's all this different stuff that you can wear, and then, of course, you can get some nice big black dildos and play with that in the bedroom and that can be a lot of fun, one of the most fun things that you can do. That's not like I don't consider it as like role play, but it is just like the fucking mental striptease, the cuck striptease. It is like, so fun, okay. Okay, I've heard of couples doing this. You guys, this is so fucking awesome.
Speaker 1:I don't know what the game is called. Somebody's got to come up with an actual name for this game because it's like. I call it like is it true? Is it true, who knows? You'll never fucking know, cucky, you will never fucking know.
Speaker 1:Um, it's where the girlfriend or wife she will make up shit, um, all the time about stuff that she so-called did, um, so maybe she did it, maybe she didn't, who knows, you'll fucking never know. And some examples of this are like um, if she's out with her girlfriends and her husband knows, okay, she's out with her girlfriends and, um, she's having a great time and maybe she. She'll like text her husband or boyfriend, whatever, and just be like honey, I just gave like a super fucking hot guy my number and leave it at that and then not say anything else about it. And maybe it's true, maybe it's not, but she'll never admit what. If it actually was true, he'll never know and it'll probably drive Kucky absolutely fucking crazy because, like he'll just you know in his mind is going to be racing like it was. Did she actually do that? Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 1:And some other things are like if she comes home late one day she can just say something like hmm yeah, I totally made out with a super fucking hot bartender. He was flirting with me all night. Oh my God, he'll never know, he'll never know and it'll drive him wild just wondering. Maybe she can send her boyfriend or husband some sexy nudes or something like that while he's at work and attach something and say something like I just sent this to the hot bartender from the other night, or like something like that. Basically, like she's just making up these little things and this and obviously this is a fun game that they both agreed to and like it could be true. It might not be. You'll never fucking know and I don't know what AI could do these days. I really don't fucking know.
Speaker 1:But wouldn't it be hot if she could actually like create these hot photos, some sexy, steamy pics of her with some like random guy, and it be it, look like the real fucking thing, and she send it to her husband and just be like, yeah, this is the guy that I, this is the reason why I'm coming home late, or something like who knows? I just think there's so many awesome, really fun possibilities that you can fuck with your cuckie's mind and he will love it. And you don't necessarily have to sleep with these other guys to be able to drive him fucking wild like that, because all it is is just like a mental game. Really, honestly, that's all it is. And if you guys are both having fun, then fucking do it. And if you guys are both having fun, then fucking do it. Last but not least, you can have her connect with some other women who are in cuckolding relationships and she can find, you know, some friendships, some connections like that with some women who you know are doing this with their actual husband and get some ideas and inspiration, and I find that those connections that women make in this lifestyle are absolutely so valuable for that. So keep that in mind. Maybe, if she feels comfortable with that, she can reach out to some of these women through social media, or maybe they've been guests on podcasts before, or whatever.
Speaker 1:Some of the things that you can do together are to listen to some podcasts together. You can get some inspiration and ideas from that, as well as read. You can also read some books together or listen to some audio books. So Insatiable Wives by Dr David Lay is a great book that you can also listen to together on audiobook, and I also, like I mentioned before, tell Me what you Want by Dr Justin Lay. Miller Links will be in the show notes for today. That's an excellent book where you can get some ideas as well as learn about some other fantasies too.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's all I have to say for you as far as like my advice for how to role play quote, unquote role play when it comes to doing sexy stuff in this lifestyle without her actually sleeping with other guys. I hope it's been helpful. I appreciate you calling in with your question and I'm sure I'm absolutely positive. There's going to be people guys who listening to this episode right now who are going to find this helpful because they're in the same situation as you. So thank you for that.
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