The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Confessions With Crystal Welch: How Do I Get My Wife to Involve Me When She Cucks Me? And When Your Size Queen Wife Wants Your Big-Dicked Best Friend!
Venus explores cuckolding dilemmas with Crystal Welch, tackling questions from couples navigating complicated dynamics in this lifestyle.
• A young husband seeks advice after realizing the "hands-off" cuckolding arrangement he initially requested now feels hollow and unsatisfying
• Another caller shares his excitement and concern about accidentally revealing his best friend's endowment to his size-queen wife
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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Let's go. Welcome to the show everyone. I'm your host, venus. Thanks for joining me today.
Speaker 1:Today is another confessions episode, and it's a good one. There's a couple of callers and I'm joined by Crystal Welch, who's going to help me answer one of the questions posed on the show for today. It's a caller who is not sure what to do because he's brought up this cuckolding thing with his wife and she's like sure I'll sleep with other guys. But they agreed in the beginning that she doesn't need to tell him about it, she doesn't need to involve him, he doesn't need to be there to watch, she doesn't need to take pictures. She signed up for that and now, two years into it, he's like I kind of want to be there, I kind of want to get pictures, I kind of want you to tell me about it. I'm feeling like this kind of sucks without being involved. What do I do? She doesn't want to do any of the above. So Crystal is going to help me give some advice to this caller about what he can do in this situation.
Speaker 1:The second one, the second confession, is super hot. I think so, anyway. You might not agree, I don't know. Anyway, this guy is enjoying the cuck life with his wife. They're having a fucking great time, you know, living it up doing the cuck thing. She's a total size queen. Okay, guy finds out his best friend has a big dick. Okay, happens to mention it to his wife. My best friend has a big dick. Okay, happens to mention it to his wife. My best friend has a big dick. She starts teasing him about it. They start dirty talking about this, about his best friend having a big dick in their foreplay and stuff. And now he's like, oh my god, what have I done? Like she seems really turned on by it. Do I make this a hard limit? Am I making a mistake here by us, you know, having fun with this and dirty talk, or do I just let it go and let whatever might happen happen if it were to go there? Very good question.
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Speaker 3:Hello, my wife and I are in our mid-twenties. We've been married for five years, going great. So I'll set the backstory for my question a bit. We've been in the lifestyle for about two years. She's had a handful of partners over that time and from the start we've had a rule that she didn't have to film it or tell me about it at all if she didn't want to, at least the first few times she was a new guy.
Speaker 3:I've never minded that rule and I don't mind all that much if I don't get a video or don't get to hear about it. But I have noticed that whenever my wife brings up it getting filmed or, even better, me being in the room, she just isn't a a fan. She talks about how she hates someone herself. She doesn't like to talk dirty to me about it after I've even tried to see if you'd be dumb to just voice record while she's with the guy um and many other things you've recommended as sort of stepping stones to progress whatever through the uh, cuckolding lifestyle, and she shot down, shoots down every single one of them, and I've also explored some kinks with her as well. So I guess my question is what's going on with her, do you think how can I make her feel more safe or comfortable to include anyone in this?
Speaker 1:Thank you All right, crystal, I'm excited to have you jump in with me on this one because I, surprisingly, have not tackled this question on the show before. I don't think, anyway, if I did, it was a long time ago. But I've come across this situation a few times, more than a few times, over the years, and it's a real dilemma and I really do feel for this caller. So I'm excited to have you on the show so we can talk about this, about what this guy should do. So basically, they've been married for five years. They're in their mid-20s and they've been I guess she's been sleeping with other guys for a couple of years. They're in their mid twenties and they've been, I guess she's been sleeping with other guys for a couple of years.
Speaker 1:But what I found interesting was that he said in the beginning they had a rule where she did not have to tell him about it and she did not have to film it. He did not have to be there to watch or anything. Basically, he did not. He told her I don't need to be involved, and so she signed up for this and was like okay, I can do this. And a couple years later he's like well, this kind of sucks Like. I kind of want to be involved. You know a little bit something, something Right right.
Speaker 1:And so he's tried to adjust that rule and boundary as they go and is having no success. So, Crystal, what are your initial thoughts on this situation? Have you come across this before? You've heard about this from guys.
Speaker 2:Yes, I've been asked the same question and a couple things come to mind. Number one they're super young. When they're young and they don't have a lot of life experience to begin with, and they start this thing that's completely outside the nine dots of what everybody thought their marriage was going to be. There's a lot of hesitation and there's some trepidation, probably more on the part of the female, like whatever they get afraid of, like maybe my husband will end up rejecting me after I do this, or something like that. I think it's in that area. But but just in the same way, my initial answer to him would probably be something like in the same way that you, when you guys decided to do this, you made some agreements and you can change those agreements.
Speaker 2:I think that's where you start. You've got to start by communicating. So perhaps if he would share what it is he feels like he's missing, what he wants to be more a part of and then work with her to find a level of comfortability, it might come with just more experience. But you can't bypass the part where you talk deeply to your partner Like he's feeling a little left out. He wants to be involved somewhere. Maybe she could have some ideas about how that might be, but you start where you are and you take baby steps.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And so that's what I would advise is to acknowledge that you had an agreement that he wasn't going to be involved and that, you know, something has shifted and changed for him and he'd like to be more involved. Maybe he could share with her like I would love it if you would let me take pictures, I would love it if you would maybe send me out of the room and humiliate me a little bit. That has to come from him. Whatever it is that he's thinking in his own mind that he would like to experience, those are the things he needs to share with her, because that then, you know, it may not be something that's so outlandish that she go. Oh yeah, sure, that's easy, we can do that. But to just acknowledge that they've made an agreement and it's time to revisit the agreements that they made, that's, that's how I guess I would approach that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do feel like I I can understand why she would be hesitating. I do feel like I can understand why she'd be like nah, I don't want you, I don't want to dirty talk this, I don't want to tell you about it afterwards, I don't. I just don't feel comfortable doing that, embracing that side of me. I get that, especially because, as you said, they're young. They're young, you know they got married when they were like what? 20 or something like. Like you don't even really know yourself at that age, right, nevermind your partner.
Speaker 2:Right and no frame of reference to anything. And so yeah, so, yeah, so they got to start with A cutting themselves a break. But the other thing you know not only, I think, if he would share kind of what's in his mind about how he might like to be involved Ask her some genuine curiosity questions like what are you most afraid of? What kind of gives you the ick? Are you embarrassed about some part of this?
Speaker 2:You got to just unleash all of that stuff to each other so that you really kind of this is the part of cuckolding that so many, I think, especially young couples miss is that it can be a pathway to just profound intimacy.
Speaker 2:But that starts with these conversations that might be tough or might feel like they're tricky in the beginning, but if you're willing to march into them and be really transparent, really vulnerable, yourself with what it is you're wanting, encourage your partner to do the same, you could end up with a much, much more intimate relationship between the two of you and it's worth everything to work toward that, because that's one of the gifts in cuckoldry that keep on giving, it builds and it can continue to build over time.
Speaker 2:But to establish that methodology of you know we've been doing this for a while. I'm feeling like I want to change something. I want to change something. Let's talk about how we might adjust our agreements so that we're both benefiting from these decisions that we're making and you'll feel closer to your partner, you'll respect them more, you'll know them better. I mean, this is the stuff that a 20-something. They haven't had experience doing this in any part of life and now they're in the thick of a marriage and taking on some hard stuff. But, man, it pays big benefits if they can get that part. If they can get that part, then it pays really big dividends if you find the courage to just be real transparent with your partner.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Years ago I surveyed the women in the Venus Connections program and I asked them what draws you into that? Why do you want this kind of relationship? Why do you want a cuckolding relationship Like, what is the pull, what's the gravity here? And they all said the same thing it was because it's a one-sided, open relationship. But the second question that I asked them was now that you know more about it or you've experienced it, what is the biggest pull for you? And it was still the one-sided open relationship part.
Speaker 1:But the interesting part was the other thing they said was I didn't realize that next level love, trust and connection that you get from this. I didn't know that that was a thing. And now that I know that it's a thing, I actually really love and appreciate that. And that's what you're talking about, that next level kind of emotional intimacy that you have with the person who you love. And this wife, this young wife, probably doesn't know that that exists because because it's been presented to her as cuckolding, as you sleeping with another guy, it's you letting another guy put his dick in your pussy and that's that's the fantasy and that's what I want, that's what the probably what the husband said to her. I want you to sleep with other dudes, which I get that so many guys are focused around that one act that that's how you pop your cuck cherry is only when she sleeps with other guys. But like you're missing the whole fucking point.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's it that you Because really, when I advertised for a function of everything, we've been programmed to believe that marriage and relationships are supposed to be from a woman's standpoint, that whole thing gets thrown into the fire in cuckoldry. It was a benefit that you can only experience it by experiencing it. And they're in a perfect position.
Speaker 2:As young people, they probably still have other curiosity about each other.
Speaker 2:You got a lot to learn yet and let it be part of that where you can really figure out, understand that you have to take it on trust to begin with, because nobody talked about this to me when I started.
Speaker 2:It's just that we discovered it. We ran right into it Like, oh my gosh, I've never felt closer to you in my life and when you shared this about that and I shared that and we shared this thing and we got in and it on trust for now. And open up that communication with her and be really vulnerable about what it is that you're wanting to see and ask her, be curious about her and her experience, because really it isn't just about having sex with other guys. It really isn't. It looks like that's what it is on the surface. It's so much more than that, and so, for those young people you know the stage that they're at they need to take that on trust and be willing to pay the price to get to that deep, deep, deep intimacy that many people won't reach if they're married for 30 years, exactly, and that's the truth, yep.
Speaker 1:I agree, I think yeah, absolutely. And I have come across guys before where they're married to a woman who refuses to cuckold them but does agree to sleep with other guys, as long as she doesn't have to tell him or anything. The same agreement, basically. And he's just so desperate to be what he thinks is cucked that he's like, okay, that'll do, that's good enough, it's not perfect, I don't have to be there or whatever. I would like to be there, but she won't let me. So it's fine, as at least she's sleeping with other guys. And they realize the hollowness, the emptiness that comes with that after a couple of years where they're like this is not fulfilling Right.
Speaker 2:Not like I thought it would be.
Speaker 1:Not like what I thought it would be Exactly. Where's the fun in this, where's the joy in this?
Speaker 2:It's missing Exactly, and I think there's also should be an acknowledgement that for those women that feel like they have to keep it hidden or that somehow maybe they get off a little bit on oh, I'm cheating, or whatever there's a certain amount of shame involved. There's a lot of sexual shame, I know in our culture, here in the US, in westernized cultures, a lot of shame that women that want to sleep with people other than their husbands, you know we get slut shamed and you know we're less than in some way. And so the acknowledgement that you know for her, the reluctance to openly share that experience and really tell them all the you know gory details and all of that stuff that she's going to have to tackle her own shame mechanism to do that, and that's, you know, that's asking quite a bit. You should ask it because, again, every one of those doors that you open will take you closer to that intimacy and understand that there's a gift in doing it. It's not just to torture you. But you know, and it's the same for the cuck.
Speaker 2:You know I saw, I saw Bichard unfold as a human being when he acknowledged you know some of the things that he enjoys, that normally, you know, a macho alpha, you know, successful male like he was, you know, would never admit that in a million years. When he did, and I just accepted him and I encouraged him and then I gave him more of that, he blossomed like a flower. Oh, I bet he blossomed like a flower and it brought us so close that, I'm telling you, dynamite couldn't blow us apart after this many years of doing it. But I allowed him, I gave him a pathway to walk into his own shame mechanism and to accept him there, to see him right there and accept him right there. All of a sudden the shame shackles are off. We started making fun of him and calling him a little penis and a little sissy faggot boy and all kinds of stuff which now we laugh about it.
Speaker 2:But when you think about where you start, you can't start there. You have to work up to that. But if you can get to the part where everybody can expose their shame mechanism and then you can start to play with that, you know the world will become your oyster and I'm telling you it'll take you to an intimacy that I believe. Yeah, it's not possible in a traditional relationship unless somehow in a traditional relationship you recognize that everybody brings a certain amount of sexual shame to the table and you're embarrassed about everything that you feel shame about, everything that you've been taught to be shameful about, and your partner can lovingly accept you right where you are. That's a ticket to relationship, nirvana, I'm telling you it is.
Speaker 1:And that goes both ways for men and women. Absolutely, women deal with a lot of sexual shame. They have to unravel a lot of shit. Yeah, and that's probably where she's at right now in her mid-20s. She's probably, like you know, got all of that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no thinking female in our culture, I know, wants to be slut shamed. Yeah, no, thinking female wants that. And so we hide it and we're secretive.
Speaker 1:Even to our own partner, that we're married to. Absolutely yes. Yes, there are things that I've never, ever, ever said to a partner before and I probably never will.
Speaker 2:But the bigger issue too is that that you're. You know, for many women they're hiding it from themselves Absolutely, and it gives you a pathway into your own spirit and a pathway into your partner that I'm not sure you know cause I'm pretty old. I'm not sure I would have ever had a chance at that. You know in any other way and I'm grateful and I'm grateful for it. You know I can laugh, I can laugh and you know he can tease me all he wants about being a slut and I go, yeah, wearing it proudly.
Speaker 1:I love it For this couple. I feel like I think a kink-friendly counselor or therapist would be really great for this couple. Yeah, because, like the shit's really difficult for anybody to navigate it is, but there's so much at stake here. They've got their you know young marriage. Who knows if they're, you know, working on kids or family, whatever, like there. There's so much at stake that they really do need to work through this in a way that is hopefully not going to harm each other or their marriage, and a kink friendly therapist or counselor can help them so much in that can help them.
Speaker 2:So much in that I agree completely A sex positive therapist. If they can hear what we're saying and they recognize that there might be some truth in that for them, it will be a lot to take on for a 20-year-old, I think. And so getting somebody that's a pro in the field, a sex positive therapist, could be just so invaluable, because I'm telling you, it will pay dividends that you can't even imagine.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, it costs money in most cases, right? Yes, it's very worth it. So I will post the link to. I've got two resource links for sex positive therapists, kink aware therapists, and where you can look one up in your area, and a lot of them will do virtual sessions as well. So it's super easy to access and, yes, it costs some money, but absolutely worth every fucking penny. So yeah, yeah, absolutely Crystal thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 2:Thank you for taking on this topic, because I think it's probably more common than not and it's, and I think it's, you know, it's just a great opportunity to talk about that stuff. So I thank you.
Speaker 4:Hi, I had a question. So me and my wife been into the cuckolding world for some time. She's cucked me four times and went perfect. Our cuckolding relationship is healthy. We trust each other, we tell each other everything. She knows that she's doing it for me because that's what I'm into, but at the same time she's creating me a cuck hold because a cuck, I should say, because she's a size queen. So it's just a full circle where now I'm into cuckolding and she understands it and she's getting her satisfaction on being able to go get big dick and knowing that. I'm okay with it, as long as we tell each other everything and do this the right way. So, and like how you say you know women should have it all and that's basically what I'm giving her, like you can have it all. So it's healthy, it's good, we love it. Um, you know it spices it up big time. I feel like like it's boosted up the sex life and so everything's all good.
Speaker 4:So my question is well, so one night out of we were out drinking with a couple of our best friends and later that night, while we were at home, me and my wife were having some foreplay before sex and I had brought up that while we were out drinking, when me and my friend Frank was in the bathroom, I by accident saw his dick and I had told my wife while we were having foreplay I was telling her that I was jealous because he had a big dick, and you know I'm small. So we were like laughing, joking about that and I seen that she got turned on when I was telling her that he had a big dick and you know she was. We were at an airbnb together that night. We're out on a trip and you know she was like we know that we both know that him and his wife have a horrible sex life. He probably gets sex probably once a month if he's lucky. She's not it. She will never be into no type of fantasies like cuckolding or any anything like I thought they even have any foreplay like it's just horrible the way he tells me and my wife.
Speaker 4:So while me and my wife were having foreplay that night, you know I seen that she got turned on and she was. She was like I don't know how it came up, but we were like saying we should add him, tell him to come to the room and, you know, have a threesome this, this and that, and ever since that night his name will come up in our foreplay a lot now. So we'll always bring him up and you know my wife will say you know she wants his big dick, you know she wants to suck it, she wants me to catch her bouncing on it and all that. And you know it's hot that and you know it's hot. You know it's hot and I mean fuck, we're into the cuckolding. So it's no different of you know, like I like me getting jealous about it. But the whole difference is it's our friend.
Speaker 4:Well, my question is is like, did I make a mistake on telling my wife that our friend has a big dick? Or should I, if I can't control it and not allow her to have any type of sex with him? You know, because there's times I'll jokingly say to her like oh, like I'm I'm not gonna share. Like you know, if we're having foreplay, I'll like I'll slap her ass or and all that, and I'll be like I'm not gonna share this with him and she'll just like laugh and be like too late, I want his big dick now. And he's like I don't know if she's joking, like I've never asked her, but I don't know if I made a mistake on including him into this foreplay.
Speaker 4:And now it can happen it can really happen or I don't know like if it was to happen, I will obviously be turned down by it. It will be hot and I know that my wife would like not fucking leave me for him. But the whole point is like, if I can control it, should I stop it or should I just let it go and let it be in? If it happens, it happens. I love this question.
Speaker 1:I love this story. Oh, my love this story. Oh my god, this story is really fucking hot Because my first cuck boyfriend we loved to talk fantasy, talk about all sorts of really naughty shit like that. He loved the idea of me fucking his clients because he was a business owner. He loved the idea of me fucking his friends or even fucking his dad. Like we went there. As far as fantasy talk goes, we didn't go there in real life, but we went there and it was so fun and like.
Speaker 1:I know that you know this doesn't appeal to a lot of people. This talk is like crossing a line or whatever. It's just too taboo. Okay, so I get that it's not hot for everybody, but oh my god, it was really fucking hot for me. So I love this story and I love the fact that you guys are having fun with it and you know, as you're doing foreplay, you are talking about it, you're getting off on it, you're talking dirty about it. I mean it's a lot of fun in the bedroom and that's great. I say, fucking, go for it and let her have fun and tease you about it. I mean there's absolutely no harm in that.
Speaker 1:Now, when there is, harm is, or could potentially be, harm is when you go and decide. If your girlfriend decides, or wife, partner whatever decides to go and do this for real, then that's where you can be potentially harming this friendship. And you said that this is your best friend, these are your best friends, that you go away on a trip together with and share an Airbnb with. This is obviously really meaningful, important friendship in your life. I would definitely not want to risk that. I would say only go for an experience with your best friend if you have his wife's total, complete, 100% on board consent with him playing with your partner, your girl, and that's well, I don't want to say not likely, because I'd like to think that we live in a world where the monogamy, non monogamy, is not weird, but like for a lot of people that is, and in I would probably guess that she would be not down for that. But you never know, you never know, right. Maybe she would be okay with like, yeah, go ahead, get banged by this hot chick, um, and. But you know, probably not. But there that's a conversation that they could have together. Who knows, I don't know. And if she says yes, then fucking go for it, and that would be super hot and whatever, not to say that it still wouldn't be a lot of drama at some point or difficult at some point, I don't know. But for now, have fun with it in the bedroom Like fuck, yes, you know, I would be all over that. I think that would be just so fun. Oh, but just yeah, I as far as like taking that fantasy into reality. Oh, be careful on that one. Really honestly, be careful. There's a lot of landmines around that one.
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