The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Welcome to the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast - a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Venus explores the real meaning of this beautiful relationship dynamic and shares her personal stories, sexy ideas, and helpful tips for singles and couples who want to navigate the cuckolding lifestyle. It’s seductive, provocative, and always informative! Visit the matchmaking service for either loving cuckolding or FLR relationships: www.VenusConnections.com Also www.venuscuckoldress.com to check out the Queen's Quarters fan hub and community.
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast
Crack Him Open: The Cuck Humiliation List
The hottest cuckolding teases don’t start in the bedroom—they start in the mind. Venus kicks off season six by blowing up the narrow, porn-fed definition of cuckolding and replacing it with a living spectrum of desire, from a coy perfume spritz before a date to the electric shock of doing cleanup under a bull’s gaze. Along the way, Crystal Welch joins in to flip the script on “humiliation,” showing how it can excavate old shame and transform it into intimacy, trust, and pulse-quickening arousal.
You’ll hear dozens of concrete ideas to try now: coded calendar entries, “bull-only” lingerie, blindfold-and-narrate scenes, service bells and task rituals, reconnecting sex that detonates with one sentence, and chastity twists like a tiny bell on the cage. Then we climb into higher intensity with charged names, ritualized nudity, key control shenanigans, strap-ons named after bulls, and diabolical games like a year-long cuck bingo card. Every tactic is grounded in consent, negotiation, and a shared goal: press the right buttons without crossing the line.
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SPEAKER_01:Let's go.
SPEAKER_03:Hey, I'm Venus, and I'm your host today. Thanks for joining me. And this is the first episode of season six of the Venus Cuckledress podcast. Can you believe it? Six fucking years since I launched this show. Wow, it's crazy. And what's even more crazy is that this show has continued to grow and grow and grow and become even more popular to the point where, like, it just fucking blows my mind. So thank you to everybody who has listened in and shared the show, been a fan, and especially to all my day one fans. So thank you so much for making this show such a big success. And the show has even been nominated once again for an AVN award for Best Adult Podcast. So that's pretty fucking awesome. Really happy about that. You can actually vote for this one. So if you want to vote for this show, maybe it'll win. Who knows? Maybe. I'll put a link to that in the podcast show notes for today. I think you can still vote. I'm pretty sure you can't. Anyway, I'll put the link there. It's crazy how successful this podcast has been. It's been fucking so amazing. I'm one of the lucky ones who can do this podcasting thing as a full-time job. And that's not lost on me, like how uncommon that is. Most people, this is just a hobby that they do, you know, outside of their regular day job. But five years ago, I was able to quit my day job and just focus entirely on this. And it is, it's, I feel very, very lucky to be able to do this. And one of the things that is unique, I think, very unique, is that I don't rely on advertising income to be able to do this podcast. I think that's like the main driver, uh, the only way really that most people can uh can do it, unless they have like an OnlyFans or something like that, but I don't have that. Um, but I don't rely on advertising income uh to be able to do this uh for my job. I simply rely on people joining one of the supporter tiers on VenusCuckledris.com to uh and and they show their support there, they get a monthly subscription, and that is how I'm able to keep doing this. So there's two tiers that are available. One's called the Friends with Benefits tier, and the other one is the helpful cuck tier. And the Friends with Benefits tier um gives you access to a huge library of bonus episodes. Uh, I think there's like a hundred episodes or something crazy on there, and early access to the episodes as well. And then the helpful cuck tier is pretty awesome because we have like live hangouts every week that are private, and then you get a private chat uh with myself, one-to-one, once a month. And you also there's also key holding and um access to all the bonus episodes in the library as well as there's a whole bunch of other stuff that you get with the helpful cuck tier. Um, so if you're interested, you can go to VenusCuckoldress.com and just click on the supporter tier tab. And yeah, with your help, I can continue doing this for another six years. Who the fuck knows? That would be awesome though. So thank you to all of you who support the podcast and help me be able to do this job. It's fucking so great. Um, all right. Over the holidays, I hope everybody had a nice Christmas and New Year's. Uh, I certainly did. Um, something, a couple of really unexpected things happened that were just so fucking satisfying that I have to talk about it. The first one was I don't even like boxing, okay? I've never really liked boxing. It's like pretty fucking violent. And I don't know, it's just not my not my thing to watch. Um, people bashing their heads in, but what? There was something so satisfying about watching two fucking assholes, Andrew Tate being one of them, get punched in the face. I was like, this is amazing. And Anthony Joshua, oh my god, I just fucking fangirled on that guy. Like he is the hottest fucking guy I have ever seen in my life. Not just physically hot, but the I if you listen to him speak, like he's humble, he's intelligent, he's like articulate. I'm like, oh fuck me. The hottest. Anyway, um, so one of my friends posted this picture of her with him, and it's obviously AI, but I was like, oh my god, what how did you do that? And so she told me which app she uses. I'm like, I'm so fucking doing that. So I like AI'd this picture of me and uh Anthony Joshua together, and it's hot as fuck. And I just captioned it. I'm like, a girl can wish, okay? Anyway, I posted that on my FetLife. If you guys are not following me on FetLife, you should. My handle is Venus Queen on there. Anyway, you can have a look on there and see it's fucking awesome picture. Anyway, um, so that was oddly satisfying. This the boxing, those couple of boxing matches where Andrew Tate gets his face smashed in and like the other guy gets his like jaw broken or whatever. Like, I just there's something so satisfying about that. Anyway, and then oh my god, a few weeks ago, I was hearing some buzz about the heated rivalry series. And I I heard it was like people were kind of going nuts about it and stuff, and I was like, okay, okay. And then I like a week, a little over a week ago, um, I I I like it started popping up everywhere on my social media, and people were just like losing their fucking minds over it. And I was like, all right, that's it. I have to, I gotta watch this series, and it's about hockey, which I fucking hate hockey. I'm like the only Canadian that hates hockey, but I really do. I I there's nothing about hockey that I like. Um but this show, oh my god, I was not prepared for it. Oh, fuck my life. It's so good. Okay, so it's a Canadian show. It's written, it's based on the books. Um, they're kind of like hockey smut books, and they're written by this like Canadian woman who she's amazing. Anyway, so that uh then there's this Jacob Tierney guy who decided that he wanted to turn the books into a series. And holy fuck, like 30% of this series is very explicit, so it's very it like, but there's so there's that, but like, come on, this is not why you watch it. It is the most epic fucking love story I have ever watched, heard, listened, whatever. Like, I I I am I was shook. I am still shook. I watched all six episodes, I binged them all. Okay, that's season one. There's only one season so far, there will be three. However, I was so fucking hooked on this show, I was like, just like out of my mind. Uh you have to watch this show. And for those of you who have, you know what the fuck I'm talking about. There's like legit, there's it's wild how fucking viral this show has been. It is everywhere online. People are talking about it, saying that like they're so so worked up in this show that they can't think about anything else in real life. And I'm like, this is me right now. I swear to God, this is me. I can't focus. I have this like psychosis or fucking obsession with this show right now. I just I can't, it's too much. I'm just dying over here. Anyway, um, you have to watch it. It's just, it's fuck, it's it's crazy. Anyway, it's just oh, anyway. I'm flustered just talking about it. I but I'm telling you right now, it's a fucking gem. Episode five was so highly rated on IMDB or whatever the fuck that is, it tied the highest rated episode of all time, which was breaking bad. Episode five tied it with a perfect 10. And so heated rivalry is insane. It is so good, and it's like deserving of all of this clout that's happening because like it is oh, I'm just it's too much. It's just so good. Anyway, my new kink, my new kink, fuck cuckolding, my new kink is actually telling all of my friends to watch the show and then watching them lose their fucking minds when they watch after they watch it. There, I this is my I get so much enjoyment over this. Like, this is me getting off like it's hot, like, yeah, this is my new thing. Anyway, enough about he did rivalry. I will just the last thing we'll say about it though, is a Canadian show, completely Canadian funded, actually funded by the Canadian government because we like to here in Canada uh fund things that are Canadian content to preserve our culture and all that all of that good stuff. So, and it was only available on Crave, which is a Canadian streaming um company, but is actually available now on HBO Max in the US. So that's where you can find it, HBO Max. So there you go. Heated rivalry, holy fuck, get ready. The shit is like so fucking good. Um, all right. One little announcement before we jump into the show. The next pillow talk uh is gonna be on, it was gonna be on January 9th. It's changed to the following Friday, so it's gonna be January 16th. Gonna be at the same time, 2:40 p.m., which is Pacific time, as 5 40 p.m. on Eastern time. And um, and so make sure you mark your calendar for that. The link to be able to register, it's free if you join live, is in the show notes for today. All right, that's it for my intro. Now let's jump into this episode today.
SPEAKER_01:Here we go.
SPEAKER_03:All right, it's been a long time since I've talked about specifically on this show teasing slash humiliation, whatever you want to call it. And right in the beginning, when I launched this show, I did a one episode called The Art of the Tease. And so I talked a little bit about it there. But recently I put a call out and I said, okay, I want to know what are your favorite ways to tease or humiliate a cuckold. And I want to make like a really good list. So I had lots of submissions and I've been working on this over the holidays, and this has been such a fun little project to come up with this list. But before I get into it, I'm just gonna talk a little bit about um some things that you need to do before you jump into this list. First of all, I want to say that cuckolding, unfortunately, uh it has such a limited definition. Like a lot of people when they think they think about cuckolding, they think about it as a husband, or though the the uh there's lots of cuckolding in uh gay relationships as well, but it and just for the sake of this episode, we're talking about heteroes, but um in hetero relationships. So when a husband watches his wife sleep with another man, that is cuckolding, and then if once he does that, he's there for a cuckold. I think that is like just the shittiest fucking definition because it really focuses the lens entirely on just watching her have sex with somebody else, and you'll see this in the porn scripts that this is what what you see is just like okay, it's like POV of the guy watching the woman. It's never the POV of the woman uh who is doing this, or and it's never outside of that bedroom, like it's it's so limited. Like me personally, I feel like 90% of the funnest parts of a cuckolding relationship are not in the bedroom, they are not actually her having sex with another guy. And so I really think it's unfortunate that cuckolding gets defined so simply as watching your partner have sex. It just fucking sucks. It's just so stupid. I feel like that's just like super dumb. That's just to me like defining sex as penis in vagina penetration. Like, excuse me, there's so much to more to sex than just that. Let's change the default of sex from that to some more creative, more holistic uh things, but also let's talk, let's think about cuckolding in a more creative and holistic kind of a way. And for that, for me, it's not just about watching, it's not just about her having sex with somebody else, it's the mental game. And so a lot of people always ask me, like, oh, well, if you like black guys so much, why don't you just date them? And it's like, I fucking really like the mental game of cuck holding. That is fulfilling to me. That's fun, that's the type of relationship that I really want. Why is that so difficult to understand? Is because this concept of that having value, of the relationship between cuck and hot wife having value is like unheard of in so many people's minds. They're like, well, isn't it all about her just having sex with other guys? And that's like everything. And it's like, fuck no, is so much more than that. Um, and so I really do feel like cuck holding is a spectrum. I've talked about this many times over the years on the show. It's a wide spectrum of practices, and I feel like on one side it's pretty tame and mild, it's more like a stag vixen kind of hot wife situation where you've got a lot of conversion and um lots of guys on that side of the spectrum who don't like the cuck label because they assume that being a cuck means you're weak and pathetic and you're degraded and blah, blah, blah, blah, which is ridiculous. But anyway, um, so that's like one side of the cuck spectrum, and then it moves kind of through the middle and on towards the other side, which is more of the kinky BDSM side of cuckolding, where you find some things that most vanilla folks would think of as like more extreme, even though it's just different practices. I feel like teasing/slash humiliation is also on a spectrum. This is just my opinion on it. This is not fucking science or fact, um, but it's just my opinion. I feel like it is, there is a spectrum uh when it comes to teasing and humiliation. So for me, in my mind, on one side, it is like a very kind of emotional strip tease on one side. And so you know what a strip tease is. If a guy was like, Oh, can you you know do a strip tease for me? We know what that looks like, right? She's basically flaunting her sexuality in front of him without giving it to him. So kind of there's this, you know, this tension, this sexual tension, there's this wanting, this yearning, this, you know, desire, and it's kind of amping up. And she's playing this game of this is how sexy I am, and it's not for you, it's just a show. And so that's to me one side of the spectrum of teasing and humiliation. Moving towards the other side, it's more of like an this feeling of embarrassment, or this kind of purposeful embarrassing him. And so it's still coming from, obviously, all along this uh this spectrum is still coming from a very loving uh point in the relationship, but it's it's more like this is a fun embarrassment. I'm gonna I want to make him blush. I want him, I want him to like kind of stumble, emotionally stumble a little bit. And and with that is more of like the teasing, and then it kind of moves into the humiliation where you're kind of digging more into the deeply held insecurities or things that you know kind of press his buttons where it turns him on a lot when you kind of dig these things out, whether that be certain things that you do or words that you use or images or whatever kind of things that you portray, um, that you're really kind of trying to press those buttons with the humiliation part. And then moving past that on the other side of the spectrum, I feel like it's more of the deep degradation. And this is where you you kind of this is like pro-level, gotta really dig in deep into what really turns this guy on, and that could be things that are super taboo, things that are they well, yes, it's a tease, yes, it's humiliating, but it stings a little bit. It's kind of like an emotional slap, but it feels so good. And so there's that side of the thing. That's like to me, in my mind, that's the other side of the humiliation spectrum. So you've got everything on that spectrum, and you kind of got to figure out where your partner is on there, like where what are the things that turn him on, and what are the things on that spectrum that you're comfortable with? So, in order to do that, you have to obviously sit down with each other and figure that out. This takes a lot of vulnerability, especially for the cuck. So, uh, not all guys are at the level where they feel comfortable divulging all of this. And if you're not comfortable, those are skills, communication skills that you need to learn. So find a kink-friendly therapist uh who can help you with that task. And they're more than help, happy to help you to learn those skills to be able to do that. And it's an investment, not just you know, an investment in therapy, but it's an investment for your relationship so that you guys can go down this road together properly in a way that's constructive and that will work for both of you. Uh, having said that, I had Miss Kayla on the show um back in 2022, and she talked about her list of ways to humiliate a cuck. Like she was so awesome. Oh my God.
SPEAKER_02:She had a suggestion. She's so great. Anyway, she this made me laugh so much.
SPEAKER_03:She said, if you if you know your your partner really gets off on humiliation, then one really fun way to sit down and talk about humiliation together and figure out what your partner really likes. She's like, just make him sit down and confess what he what turns him on. Confess all the dirty things that make him turned on and make him jerk off while he's confessing it. And then afterwards make him take notes on all the things that he said. I was like, oh my God. That's actually brilliant. That's actually incorporating his kink into his confession. And I just fucking love that so much. So if you guys are comfortable enough, my God, do that. Do that. Um, and the other thing is, is once you figure out, okay, this is where kind of like I have an idea of where we're at when it comes to where you fall on this humiliation spectrum. Um, and if you want to just, you know, start practicing some of these things together, best advice you'll find anywhere is start small and slow. Okay, small, take small little bites out of this project. Um, because if you jump in into the deep end of humiliation, it's gonna feel really weird. I'm speaking from experience. It took me years till I finally felt comfortable with it. And now it just comes naturally. But like in the beginning, man did ever feel fucking fake and weird and like role-playing, and just it felt forced and it just was not enjoyable for me at all. So just start small, just take little bites and start with the more subtle kinds of humiliation. And this piece of advice is for all the husbands who are listening who are like, oh my god, I really want her to humiliate me and do all of these femme dummy things for me. I really want to, you know, this, that, and that. And you've got your laundry list of all the shit that you've been watching in porn that you really fucking want your wife to do, and blah, blah, blah. Slow the fuck down. Go 10 steps backwards, and literally just start with something very, very small. Okay. And you have to kind of meet her where her where she's at. If she's at level one, you gotta meet her at level one. Don't just jump into level 10 and be like, but this is what I want. Please do it. This will make my dick hard. Don't do that. And one last piece of advice before we jump into this list is she's if she is taking the time to invest in your kinks, I sure as fuck hope you have spent the time to invest in her desires, her pleasure, her fantasies, her thought process around what sex is, what it looks like, what it could look like, what it should look like. And you should be focused on closing the orgasm gap. And if you haven't done any of those fucking things before, you have this conversation with her about your fantasies, then you have a lot of work to do before you get into this. All right, I have my very good friend Crystal Welch here, and we're gonna go over this list of really fun ways on how to tease or humiliate your cuck. This is gonna be so much fun. Crystal, thanks for joining me for this.
SPEAKER_00:Well, you know, I'm always excited to join you. It's great content. I thought it might be helpful too for those who aren't really truly aware of what is cuck humiliation. I mean, what is it really in the lifestyle? And the way I learned it was it's not about degrading, it's not about making someone feel bad. What it is, is it is a way to excavate someone's sexual shame and guilt and eroticize it. So you're erotic the things that they find that just sing them, it's probably tied to some type of sexual guilt or shame. And you put it in an erotic arena, and all of a sudden it's like super fun. So I wanted to start with that kind of common understanding. So uh for people who are maybe new to Venus's show, you don't think and because cut humiliation gets a lot of um negative. Yep, and it's because people don't really understand what it is. It's it's it's erotic humiliation. You're eroticizing somebody's sexual shame and guilt. So let's get into it.
SPEAKER_03:Yes. One of the things that I um explained right before we got on to go over this list was that I feel like um the tease slash humiliation uh part, the game, the mental game of cuckolding, um is super fun. That's where I th I feel like the vulnerability is the connection part of uh this kind of relationship, which kind of just elevates it to a whole other level of connection that you have and bonding that you have together. But I feel like, and this is just my opinion, is very much on a spectrum, just like cuckolding is on a spectrum of of practices. The humiliation or teasing part is really on a spectrum. So if your guy really fucking gets on off on this, you're obviously gonna sit down and figure out like what is what are those things that he f really desires and fantasizes about, but also what are the things that really trigger him into that erotic kind of, oh my god, that fuck that's an emotional slap, but it stings a little bit, but it's super hot and it's giving me such a boner.
SPEAKER_00:That's how you know.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Manners, manners just so transparent.
SPEAKER_02:Right.
SPEAKER_03:Hard dick never lies, babe.
SPEAKER_00:Never never, never does.
SPEAKER_03:And one of the things I talked about before we get into this list uh was that um Miss Kayla was on the show in 2022 and she was talking about humiliation, and she she was saying that one really fun way of figuring this out is you make your husband sit down and tell you what what kind of teasing and humiliation really turns him on. But make him jerk him off, make him jerk off while he's telling you this, sitting there in front of you, telling you this, and then make him take notes after.
SPEAKER_02:I was like, oh my god, that's so awesome.
SPEAKER_00:That's actually that's a really good idea.
SPEAKER_03:Because the only thing that he's gonna talk about are the things that actually really fucking turn him on, because he'll be jerking off. Otherwise, he's gonna lose his boner and it's you know, whatever. So exactly. She's brilliant. Yeah, she was so awesome. Um, okay, so on this spectrum, one side in my how I see it as like being very subtle, these kind of very kind of tame-ish, sweet-ish kinds of ways to tease or humiliate. And then on the other side of the spectrum is kind of the more like heavy, like intense, like very kind of what some people might think of as extreme, kind of more on the degradation side of things, whereas humiliation comes kinds of like kind of sits in the middle. We've got some playful teasing and embarrassing stuff kind of on the other side. So that's how I kind of think about it. So I started out, I wrote this list based on some of my own things, but also some of the things that people who are listeners of the show emailed me or send me a message and said, Hey, like add this to the list. So I started out with some of the subtle things. Um, then some of them are, I mean, for for me and you, probably like too tame, but I thought, you know what, this is probably a good place to start if any of these things kind of like turn on your man and you haven't kind of gone down this road before. So having him help you uh pick out your bulls was on the top of this list on the subtle end of things. And to me, it just seems helpful and it's kind of like, you know, yeah, I don't want to have to deal with that. But for cucks, they or cucks or stags, whatever they want they want to call themselves, this little task seems kind of humiliating or kind of like embarrassing, and that I'm I'm the one that has to now search for this guy for her. So having that out on the on the first part of it. Same with picking out outfits for a date. So cucks just fucking love this one. I have heard them so many times. Oh, can I pick out what you wear tonight? This seems like the it's such a sweet little thing. Um, but it is kind of like a tease for them. This really amps up the angst for cuckies for sure.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, that's right.
SPEAKER_03:And then um being very descriptive when telling him about your date. So if your guy, you know, if he's not there to watch, just be really descriptive afterwards. Um, and you can, you know, just be like tell him exactly how it felt as soon as you saw the get this bull, as soon as you, you know, took your panties off. Like, what did that feel like? The first touch, the like penetration. Just go into all the juicy details. He will fucking love it. There's something very angsty about that where and such a turn on where the more descriptive you are, the better.
SPEAKER_00:And one of the one of the things that uh that I've added to that, because that is that's a that's a whiz banger for uh my hubs, is I share with him all the erotic things that my lover has said to me. And if he if he's not very verbal and he hasn't really said anything, I make shit up. And it just drives him wild.
SPEAKER_03:He'll never know.
SPEAKER_00:He'll never know.
unknown:He'll never know.
SPEAKER_02:That's awesome.
SPEAKER_03:Um yeah, like that feeling when the when your bull slides this dick in your pussy for the first time, it's kind of overwhelming feeling. That gasp that you let out, like the eyes rolling back. Tell your cuck all of that shit, like descriptive like that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Details. Details, absolutely. Um, and then okay, so sensory deprivation. I love I personally love this one. I think it's a great way to kind of tease your cuck that's not, you know, super hardcore, but have him blindfolded some of the time while he's watching you. I mean, why not? Right. Or and then just narrate to him what's happening so he can't see, but you can tell him when he's blindfolded, have him listen in from outside of the room or on the phone. I love these ones. I think those are a fun little way to really amp up the teasing part.
SPEAKER_00:Or you can take that same scenario and um tie him to a chair in your room with his cage on and blindfolded so he can hear everything in great detail. And his urge to try and see will just drive him insane. But he's tied, he's tied down and he can't do a thing, but just listen and suffer.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, and you can record, you can record, you can video record this encounter with your bull so that he can watch it a later at a later time. But for the time that he's there in the room, he's he's not gonna be able to see it, only hear it. I fucking love that. I know that's great. That's great. There's so many things that you could play with with this anyway. Um, okay, so we talked about um having him pick out outfits for your dates, but having him plan the dates, having him pay for the hotel, help you get ready, get the bath ready for you when you come home after. That was a listener who who said that it which would be super nice to have him get your um, you know, your your bath all prepared for you for when you get home or some food because he knows you're gonna be hungry, you need a snack. Um, all this fun stuff. Yeah. Yep, yep. The prep work. The prep work. Yes, that's very thoughtful. Have him drop you off, pick you up afterwards. Oh, and then this one I especially love. I spoke to a couple years ago who the guy told me that his wife has a special perfume that she will only wear when she goes to see a bull. And I loved that so much because he said one day she put it on by accident and she was and she was around her husband, and he was like, Oh my god, you are irresistible right now. I can't, what is this? What he knew about this perfume, but he knew it wasn't for him, and I was like, Oh, I love this so much. This is so good. She must have planned something without my knowledge. Yes, it was all angsty, just at the smell, the scent of the the perfume. I fucking I just love that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_03:It's so easy to play this game, to fuck with your cuck's head. I just like love it so much. Um, oh, and also obviously lingerie that's only for bulls. I mean, I've heard it this many times, but picking out lingerie for your wife and she only wears it for bulls. Okay. Um, and then there's I found I heard about couples, some couples who where she'll only get pampered, like doing her nails or getting her hair done or shaving her legs if she has a date with a bull and she won't do those things for her husband. So kind of playing off of the unfairness, the unbalanced part of a cuckolding relationship kind of amps up the angsty bit for her husband. Um, and then I put on this list, even though this is the tame list, I put key wearing. So if he is, you know, in chastity, um, wearing his key can be a really fun little mental game uh that women can play with that. So um, and then but probably hidden wearing, because these are probably couples in this tame list who don't want to, you know, show the world that your your husband's in chastity or have them wonder. Also, hidden temporary tattoos, uh, I've seen that as well. One of the things I really like about this part, this is super fun and easy. Women, listen up, okay. If you have a date with a bull that's coming up, okay, and you have, let's say you've got, you know, you you've got kids, you got a family going on, you got a busy household, but you want to tease your husband about this date that's coming up, you can put it on the calendar in the kitchen, have it coded as your book club meeting or something like that. Something that you and your husband know is not a fucking book club. That's your fucking date with a bull, and you have that like highlighted on the calendar in the kitchen. I just think that's so fun because you know he's gonna be looking at it, he's gonna see it, he's gonna know what it means. No one else is gonna know, but he's gonna know. Yeah, it is such a great way.
SPEAKER_00:That aspect of in a very subtle way like that, of sort of exposing your vulnerable side to the public, uh, is really powerful. It's super powerful. Um, one of the things along those lines that we do, I mean, I'm black only, so when I have uh a boyfriend in town or whatever, we like to go in public, and very definitely he chauffeurs us, he uh, you know, walks behind us, when the waitress comes to the table, I'll say, Well, I'm gonna have this, and my boyfriend will have this, and my husband over there on the other side of the table will have that. I mean, it drives him crazy. And then we just sort of wait and see if there's any reaction, and then we just go on about our business like that's normal. It's that that little subtle public exposure is really super, super, super hot to Bitchard.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, and Bitchard, I love the fact that you renamed him Bitchard. I think that's probably somewhere on this list somewhere. Um, the other thing that obviously you can do to tease your cuck. This is on I put it on the subtle list because you can be subtle about it, but sending him pictures and videos of you with your bull or screenshots of text messages uh that you're having with your bull, where you're sexting or flirting together or whatever, you can send that to him. Obviously, these guys fucking love it, but you can send it to him while he's at work, or if he's at a family function or something like send it to him when he's in a possibly uncomfortable situation to have to receive them. Um I think that's so fun. Honestly, I love that shit. Um, okay, that's it for the the subtle list. Now we're going into like the somewhere in the middle of the teasing spectrum, humiliation spectrum. Okay. One of my personal fucking favorites is cleanup. Have your guy do cleanup. And maybe I've seen um some variations on this as well, where the wife will be like having her husband taste the cum that's in her pussy and be like, okay, babe, guess which bowl this is? Can you guess?
SPEAKER_00:That one is brilliant. I mean, I don't have enough activity to use that particular one, but it's brilliant. Uh, another thing you might keep in mind on that is uh I'll say something like uh, so do you think by licking uh this real man's cum out of my pussy it makes you more of a real man? Or, you know, are you still kind of not? And and it's somehow that just grabs him because he realizes the full the full impact of what he's doing. Yes, you know, like somehow if he imbibes it, he's gonna embody some of that real man energy, and you know, and we know he doesn't have it, so poor guy.
SPEAKER_03:Well, uh there is testosterone in Cum. And so he is like actually ingesting testosterone, he's getting a little boost from the bull in that way, which is like amazing.
SPEAKER_00:Just ask him if that's gonna help him at all, get an erection or something like this. Although he he won't be able to tell because he'll be in a cage, and so what will he know? He won't know anything, but you make him think. I mean, this is a mental game above all else.
SPEAKER_03:That's right, that's right. And this is where the fun is the dirty talk that you can have with your cuck when he's doing cleanup is fucking just so special. Oh my god. Yeah. Um, next on this list, I put reconnecting sex, which I guess could be on the on the tame end of the spectrum as well. Um, some people call it reclamation sex. I don't like that because then you're not claiming somebody, you don't own them, but um, I like reconnecting sex because uh one of the hottest videos I ever watched in my life was way, way the fuck back is like probably 10 years ago, where uh this guy was watching hair his wife fuck a bull, and then right after he went and fucked her, but he only lasted like three or four pumps because he was Because she was like so stretched out and she was full of cum.
SPEAKER_02:And like he just was so turned on by that that he couldn't last. And I was like, that is the hottest fucking thing ever.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, here's our story. And this is something a number of years ago. We were with um a good friend of ours, and you know, we just had a he's one of those guys that could go like 10 times a day, and he decided to be gracious to Bitchard, and so he says, Okay, you can have a you can have a crack at this. And and he it's like he went in and he fell out immediately. And we laughed until we nearly died. I mean, all three of us were literally on the floor holding our sides, laughing about, and he's never I will never live that down, ever, ever.
SPEAKER_02:Oh my god, that is see, I would fucking enjoy that so much too. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Oh my god. Okay, so there is a lot of fun that you can have with that reconnecting sex, and yeah, amazing. Um, but one of the things that I really like about the reconnecting sex is that there's like, oh, you all all it takes is a few words, and then your your cuck is gonna like lose his mind and come like just explode. Like I love the uh someone said you should say your pretend like you're enjoying it and say your bull's name.
SPEAKER_00:But make sure your bull isn't there because it would insult him.
SPEAKER_01:Yes.
SPEAKER_03:Um, but some of the other things that you could say, um, I can't really feel you. Are you in?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Are you in yet? Are you in? Did you slide out? Like what? Did you fall out again?
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Oh my gosh. Or you could say something like he fucked me so much deeper than you, or something. Genuinely just shocked at how shallow it is. Um you could say, I'm thinking about him, so I can finally come right now, or something like that. Like there's so many things that you could say, and that's like, or you would say, Oh, cute, you're trying so hard. That was just so funny. It that's all it takes, ladies. If you're listening, that's all it takes. You say that one thing, and boom, he's just gonna explode, and then just be like, oh my god, that was the most insane orgasm I've ever had in my life. Um so that kind of ties into dirty talk, which is also on this list. Obviously, there's a lot of dirty talk that you can do. Um, and that should be pretty custom and unique to your own relationship with your guy. Uh, chastity's on this list. So, chastity, no touching when watching. And then someone said put a bell on his cage while he's watching you. And I was like, wait, what? Like, so that's like he can't move his cage. If you hear the bell, there's gonna be something like wait a minute, you're not allowed to touch yourself. Um, which I thought was really cute. And then, of course, there's tasks. Cuckies like tasks. So bring in the drinks, being the water boy, being the lube boy, bringing the condoms. And then um, I think it was Kayla who said, Bring a bell. You know those little bell, like a bell you put like next on the service counter where you like you need to be. A dinger, yeah. A dinger. Like, bring that and have that at the bedside so that you just like ring the bell when you need your cuck to come and do something.
SPEAKER_02:I was like, oh my god, that's so awesome.
SPEAKER_03:Jeeves in here. Um, and then birthday gifts. So cucks really do like having to go and get gifts for birthday gifts or special gifts for bulls. And I personally really love that. Um, and then oh my god, Kayla's hilarious. She was saying that, like, if your bull comes over to your house and um he's fucking you, at the same time, your husband should be outside washing his car, and she's like, bonus points if the neighbors see him washing this guy's car.
SPEAKER_02:I was like, yes.
SPEAKER_03:Just imagining the neighbors coming out and being like, oh, that's not your car, is it? Like, did you get a new car? Like, who is that? I mean, explain it.
SPEAKER_00:Too funny.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, and then um I have heard of wives who will only do certain sexual acts with bulls. So they'll withhold those sex acts from their husbands, such as anal. Like, uh, she'll only do anal with a bull, she won't do it with me. And that's like such a such a tease or humiliating thing for a husband. Like, she'll do it with them, but she won't do it for me. Um, and then visible key hole key wearing. So going out in public with your key on a necklace or where wherever, it's just so people can see it. God, cats love this one. This is like so humiliating. They love it.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, Bitchard got me a long chain, and I wear my little QOS pendant with the key to the cage on the same string. And so nice. And it's small, so it's subtle, but you know, everybody knows it's there.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, that's the other thing on this list was uh wearing lifestyle clothing. Um, whether that be a queen of spades or cuck symbols or whatever kind of clothes that have something on it. I've heard this a lot. And then, oh, I love this one. Okay, I've had this fantasy for 10 years, 10 fucking years. I love artistic bodyscape photos, so kind of like grayscale, black and white kind of um close-ups of body shapes that's photography made into art that's not explicit, so it's not showing like private parts or parts or anything, but sexy, beautiful kind of photography. And having that done with you and your bull and then putting that on the wall in your house so there's no faces, or maybe it's pixelated, or maybe it's blurred, or something like that, where you and your husband know that's you and your bull, but people coming over wouldn't be able to know. Um, I fucking love that. I think that is like so beautiful. I would love to do that. Um, then I have send him explicit videos while he's on a work call. This kind of like teasing your cuck in the moment where he he he has to concentrate on something for work or socially or something like that. Like just amping it up that little bit of like, I'm gonna tease the fuck out of you, but you you have to be stay composed. I love that so much.
SPEAKER_02:Um get him to buy himself a new cuck chair for a birthday present or something like that. Get him to go buy himself a cuck chair. That's that's that's a good one. That's a good one. It is. You can make it like some sort of customized cup uh cuck chair with like cup holders or fucking who knows what.
SPEAKER_00:Or at least at least have arms on it so you can um tie his arms to the to the arms so he can't move anywhere.
SPEAKER_03:Yes. Oh, it customize the fuck out of it. That would be so great. Okay, now we're on to the last part of the list, which is the kind of most what I find the most fun. You're probably gonna think this is the most fun too. Um the harsher kind of things on this list. So the dirty tap, dirty, dirty talk, amp it the fuck up. Call him bitchard, call him slut boy, bitch boy, nasty boy, whatever the fuck really gets him going. Uh go for it, call him all of that. And then um make him be naked in front of the bull. I've heard this often. This is like really humiliating for cucks to have to be completely physically naked in front of the bull.
SPEAKER_00:Um, I have a story. I have a story about that. So there was a guy that we saw for a period of time, this has been a few years back, and he was local to our city, and so we would see him pretty often, but he jumped into that bull commander role right away, which a lot of bulls can and won't do. But he he contacted Bitchard independently. He says, I'm going to be over here at this time. I want you, excuse me, naked on your knees, and I'll have a Manhattan that you have that drink prepared and ready to serve me when I walk through the door. And to this day, Bitchard talks about that as like the hottest thing he's ever done in his life. And there he was with this total stranger, this big black man that, you know, he's on his knees looking up like a little frog or something, and he had his drink and and he was upged and all of that stuff. But I mean, it just takes a little bit of creativity, and it can just be so, so uh electric.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, it's a moment in time that's etched in his brain forever.
SPEAKER_00:He still brings it up. I mean, that's been years ago. He still brings it up.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, amazing. Um, okay, make him do cleanup while being watched by the bull. This is also a very embarrassing thing for guys. So not just do cleanup, but but in front of the bull. So the bull is gonna watch you eat the cum his cum out of your wife.
SPEAKER_02:Like what?
SPEAKER_00:And then and then either the bull or the wife are both talk about it. Yeah, describe what describe what they're seeing.
SPEAKER_02:Um I love this one.
SPEAKER_03:Give give your husband's chastity key to your friends or to some of your bulls. Make or make him make your husband call all of them to figure out who has it.
SPEAKER_00:That's diabolical. That right there is diabolical.
SPEAKER_02:So embarrassing.
SPEAKER_03:Um make him put on extra large condoms and then laugh at how they're too big.
SPEAKER_00:Oh my goodness.
SPEAKER_03:Or put on make your husband put on the cum-filled extra large condom that your bull just used and watch it just slide all over his little tail. Oh, so mean. Um, okay. Fuck fuck your wife with uh a big strap on while caged, and then name the dildo on it after her bull. Oh, I love that. Um, outing him to his friends. This is something that my first cuck boyfriend really loved fantasizing about. It always stayed a fantasy. It was never something that we actually did. But if your cuck really enjoys the idea of other people finding out that he's a cuck, doesn't mean you have to go and out him. However, you can play with that so much. Like one of the things that I always told him was like, okay, you want to have poker night with your friends? That's totally fine. Get your friends to come over, it's totally fine. But you have to tell them that um as like whoever wins the poker game gets to fuck me.
SPEAKER_02:So I'm the prize thing.
SPEAKER_03:It was such a hot fantasy because it was just like, imagine that happening. Imagine his friend wins the poker game and is and he is like, all right, okay, you get you get her. Can't you see the jaws dropping around the table? Yeah. Like, holy cow. Um, permanent visible tattoos. I have three Queen of Spades tattoos, and some cucks just think that that is just like the hottest fucking thing ever. The fact that it's permanent, the fact that it's visible, that people out in public can see them, and they're just like, oh my god. Even though 99.99% of people out there in public have no idea what it means. Um it's hot for them to at least know that you have it. Um make him lick your cum-filled panties, wear the bull's underwear, especially good if the bull's underwear are a lot bigger in size than his. Um, and then don't let him wash his face after he does cleanup. So if he's got this, you know, your pussy juice is mixed with cum, your bulls come all over his face because he just cleaned you up. Don't let him wash his face.
SPEAKER_02:Bonus points if you have to go out in public or to a social event after.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, jeez.
SPEAKER_03:I love it. Um and then fluffing, okay. Fluffing is a thing where your cuck um sucks your bull's dick to get him hard, to get him ready for you. This is definitely a thing that some couples in cuck holding do. Same with the force by aspect. It's not an aspect that I um into. However, there's a lot of couples out there in the cuck holding world who love to play with that. And there's so much fun that you can have with that. Same with feminization, dressing up your cuck in women's underwear or that kind of thing. Sissification is also a thing, making him a sissy. Um, and then I have also on this list extended sexual denial or chastity. Um, and so, oh, I forgot to mention that one of the things on the tame list is that can be really fun with teasing is denying your cuck sex for a certain number of days or a week before you have a date with a bull. That's a really fun way to tease him as well. But more extreme would be extended lengths of sexual denial or chastity. And then one of the things that I saw at uh Splash Mocha party was um bingo cards. Do you remember the bingo cards, Crystal? Oh, yeah, yeah, they were super fun. I so there were slut bingo cards for the ladies to be able that had all these things on it that you, you know, would hope to achieve over the four days of the hotel takeover party, where we which were all pretty slutty activities. But I do think I remember seeing a cuck bingo card somewhere, and I don't remember what was on it, but it was all cuck goals that were on it.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I don't I don't think I ever saw the cuck one, but I would love to, but that would be something fun to sort of manufacture.
SPEAKER_03:Yes.
SPEAKER_00:Put together all your creative ideas.
SPEAKER_03:Absolutely. You can make a cuck bingo card for the year 2026 and be like, all right, we're gonna work on this bingo card to see how many things that we can check off, and there'll be some reward if he's able to like call bingo at some point. I love little games like that. I think that would be super fun. You could pick whatever you want off of this list or whatever, come up with something together, and that would be a really fun little game to do. Um, that's it for the list. Before we wrap up, I wanted to talk about aftercare because this is something that doesn't get mentioned very often. Um, you have to incorporate aftercare, especially if you're going to really get into the more kind of hardcore ways of teasing and humiliating your cuck. Um, and it's aftercare for both peoples, for the wife and the husband, and not just for the husband. Yes, this is an emotional ride. It can be kind of an take an emotional toll with your cuck, but this is also something that you're embarking on together that she is working through because it might not be comfortable for her. It wasn't for me in the first few years that I got into teasing humiliation. Some of the things that you can do together, cuddling, have a bath together, nice little massage, but make sure that you include reassuring words for both of you and that you are saying to each other that you liked it, that you enjoyed it, and having those words repeated over and over again, that that was fun. I liked that, that was great. So when Bitcher Bitchard really liked being, you know, put in his place by the bull, his thing is to say, I liked that, I loved that. Like that did it for me. And that's really important part of aftercare, making sure that your partner is like, okay, I'm reassured. I know that we're doing this. This is coming from a place of love, like this is good. Or maybe you'll discover during that conversation some things that didn't work for he was like, now that felt like it went a little bit too far. That's the time to to explore that together. Um, all right, Crystal. Do you have anything else that you think might be that maybe we might have missed on this this big ass fucking list?
SPEAKER_00:That was a pretty good one. And uh, you know, my what was going through my mind is are we just diabolically evil? Or are we just creatives? I don't know. No, it's uh I think if if you understand the intention of erotic humiliation, it's a way to just take a deep for both of you to take a deep dive inside the psyche and the mind of the cuck. A lot of times men are not so willing to expose what they fe what they genuinely feel and what they what they really think about something. Erotic humiliation is is a golden key inside their psyche. You can get in there and just you know, if you do it wrong, you can do all kinds of damage. But if you do it right and you do it in the spirit of a loving playfulness, uh you can you can release him from decades of sexual shame and guilt. And that's where the bond, that's the payoff to me. That's the payoff in erotic humiliation is you become the catalyst for him, unlocking the things that have made him so ashamed and so guilty in the past. And how powerful is that? Yeah, so so have fun with it, have a lot of fun with it, and definitely talk about what worked. I mean, you'll be able to see mostly what worked with him as he's straining against the cage and it's almost gonna break that little cage, but uh, but but talk about it, talk you know, the aftercare part is really important so that because your job, your job as the partner to a cuck is to excavate him, you know, figure out what is in his mind and in his psyche that you can be the catalyst to unleash and that will bind him to you more than submit. And I'm just telling you, that's true.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, I love that so much. Yes. I love that you were use that word excavate. Um, Kayla talks about cracking him open. I love that too. It's just like cracking him over. Like, let me see what's inside. I'm gonna just like, you know, break down that wall, crack it open, and figure out what's there.
SPEAKER_00:When you think about when you think about how difficult being that vulnerable, you know, chances are he's never ever been that vulnerable with another human being in his entire life, and you think about what a bond that creates, that you you can be the catalyst to opening that up, and then you know, because what happens when you when you give that stuff out and you bring it up here to the surface and you talk about it and you play with it and you make fun of it and all that stuff, it demystifies it, it takes the shame away, so then he can have fun with it, and it's not a shaming mechanism anymore. That's how powerful this is. Don't underestimate it, you know, spend some time being really creative, but it's very, very, very powerful.
SPEAKER_03:I love that. Well, thank you so much, Crystal, once again for being on the show and explore this. I love this cut topic of conversation. I knew you would be the greatest one to talk about it with me. So thank you so much.
SPEAKER_00:Thanks for having me. And uh good luck on your journeys out there, guys and girls.
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